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Stopping Negativity in its Tracks???
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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 58049" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>My oldest easy child has a tendency to get into negative modes and with him humor is usually the best way to handle it. When he gets to carrying on I'm apt to let out a loud mock gasp and exclaim "Don't tell me that *Mr. Negative* is back?! We didn't invite him today."</p><p></p><p>One year he had a teacher that he didn't gel with and while he had some very legitimate concerns about what was happening he also made it far worse on himself by dwelling on it and rehashing it whenever I was around for an audience. I do think it's important in situations like these for the kids to understand that we've not just heard them, but really have heard them so I made him sit down at the kitchen table and I listed every complaint he had about school in a notebook. He was really sheepish but I made him complete the task. Then I stashed the notebook nearby and the next time he launched into his tirade I pulled out my notebook to check if what he was saying was already on the list, or if I needed to sit down and add any new complaints. It didn't take but a few times of that for him to quit rehashing the old stuff (thereby adding to his misery) and get to the problems at hand (which started to pale a little when not bogged down by the rest).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 58049, member: 701"] My oldest easy child has a tendency to get into negative modes and with him humor is usually the best way to handle it. When he gets to carrying on I'm apt to let out a loud mock gasp and exclaim "Don't tell me that *Mr. Negative* is back?! We didn't invite him today." One year he had a teacher that he didn't gel with and while he had some very legitimate concerns about what was happening he also made it far worse on himself by dwelling on it and rehashing it whenever I was around for an audience. I do think it's important in situations like these for the kids to understand that we've not just heard them, but really have heard them so I made him sit down at the kitchen table and I listed every complaint he had about school in a notebook. He was really sheepish but I made him complete the task. Then I stashed the notebook nearby and the next time he launched into his tirade I pulled out my notebook to check if what he was saying was already on the list, or if I needed to sit down and add any new complaints. It didn't take but a few times of that for him to quit rehashing the old stuff (thereby adding to his misery) and get to the problems at hand (which started to pale a little when not bogged down by the rest). [/QUOTE]
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