Hi all, I signed up for a 6-wk stress reduction class with-a life coach a few wks ago. It's mostly interesting and informative, although I can do with-o the motivational stuff. My husband suggested it, because he knows the coach, and he loves all that stuff--the garage and his ofc are filled with-motivational books and CDs. She uses things from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, as well as other well-known authors and coaches. And she adds her own touch. One thing she does is go out for a glass of wine after ea class, and just chat. She keeps the group to under 10 people so we can get to know one another, and nothing personal leaves the group, and boy, do we get personal! She has a degree in industrial psychiatric and she loves psychology. It's evident by the way she gets people to open up quickly. There are two women there who remind me of myself 11 yrs ago. I call it The Yr From H*ll. We had just adopted difficult child, easy child was 5, we got our 4th dog who was very ill and it took wks to nurse her to health, and then she turned out to be a fear biter, I was the pres of Rotary Club, we hosted an exchange student from Brit Guyana, and I was trying to work at the same time. I rewarded myself with-Epstein Barr. I am much better now at saying "No." In fact, one of the moms, who is a volunteer mom at school, plus, owns her own pharmacy, had an interesting comment when I said, "I don't volunteer for anything." She said, "I know." Gulp. She is one of the most stressed out people I know and it has affected her heart, so I personally think I'm doing the right thing. I helped her set up a cute cookie and lemonade snack station after one of the lower school plays a cpl wks ago and it turned out Soooo cute! But she was 40 min late, and didn't have everything because she had depended upon her husband to p/u some things and he had them in his car and was at work. They had never agreed upon a time. The two of them are a mess and while I hate watching it, it's good for me to see so I don't repeat the same mistakes. One thing is that she asks/tells him to do things to help her, and he screws up repeatedly, and she gets stressed out, and you'd think she'd just give up and ask another mom to do it. Nope, history repeats itself. Sigh. He's very clingy, to the point of something pathological, and that adds to her stress, as well. She needs to leave her cell ph in the car when she goes to mtngs. That's one stress-reliever that I do. Another big one is to clean up our personal space. Well, my bedroom is great. My office and studio are awful! Every day, I take one, small pile and sort through it. It's just too much to deal with otherwise. No one has a kid like mine, so the instructor of course tells me to detach and stay calm, like there's an invisible forcefield around me. Same thing my therapist told me. I'm getting better but it's SO hard, as you all know. There's a lot more. I'll update with-tips when I come up with-things pertinent to this group.