Cass1
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Im having a really hard time dealing with the fact we might possibly have to raise another child ..We have had our grandson who will be 3 in Feb living with us since June 08 dues to him being in CAS care since birth..When he came to live with us I thought the parents being my difficult child and his girlfriend ( now ex) would make a big effort to getting him back.I was really wrong about that and Ive been struggling with this pretty much since I was last on here.
They dont do what they are asked of by CAS they dont keep appts and sometimes they go for days without calling for a visit which my husband or I have to supervise.
Our order is up from CAS and will be back in court soon CAS wants us to take custody or else they will take him back and put him up for adoption.The parents have known this but yet make little effort the mothers other child that she had before my difficult child has already been adopted out.
Right now they are doing pshycological assesments on them to see if they can have unsupervised visits,which I dont have any concerns about and would help me out alot as I already pay for two days of daycare a week with no help at all from CAS.
So today they both had appointments for the assesment my difficult child called me to tell me that his ex girlfriend cancelled said she was sick then said she got called into work.If they dont follow through with these appointment I could be having no help at all with my grandson and they just seem to think of themselves.Im so tired... tired of the all the appts, tired of dealing with CAS & the parents ,tired of always having to change my plans Im just tired of the whole situation!! Ive raised my kids and I started at a really young age and grew up quickly,it was now my time to finally do the things Ive always wanted to do but now that Im raising another child thats not going to happen.Dont get me wrong I love my grandson to death but I didnt want anymore kids I struggled over the years with my 2 difficult child's and still do my younger 2 are usually no trouble so I dont want to have to do that all over again.So thats where Im stuck because Im not letting him be put up for adoption!!
They dont do what they are asked of by CAS they dont keep appts and sometimes they go for days without calling for a visit which my husband or I have to supervise.
Our order is up from CAS and will be back in court soon CAS wants us to take custody or else they will take him back and put him up for adoption.The parents have known this but yet make little effort the mothers other child that she had before my difficult child has already been adopted out.
Right now they are doing pshycological assesments on them to see if they can have unsupervised visits,which I dont have any concerns about and would help me out alot as I already pay for two days of daycare a week with no help at all from CAS.
So today they both had appointments for the assesment my difficult child called me to tell me that his ex girlfriend cancelled said she was sick then said she got called into work.If they dont follow through with these appointment I could be having no help at all with my grandson and they just seem to think of themselves.Im so tired... tired of the all the appts, tired of dealing with CAS & the parents ,tired of always having to change my plans Im just tired of the whole situation!! Ive raised my kids and I started at a really young age and grew up quickly,it was now my time to finally do the things Ive always wanted to do but now that Im raising another child thats not going to happen.Dont get me wrong I love my grandson to death but I didnt want anymore kids I struggled over the years with my 2 difficult child's and still do my younger 2 are usually no trouble so I dont want to have to do that all over again.So thats where Im stuck because Im not letting him be put up for adoption!!