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Stressful and Sad Day - August 8th
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 64464" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>I'm so sorry that this day conjures up bad memories. Like the others have said, try to change that. One way to change it is to make today a happy day. Do something special for yourself, nurture your soul, your heart - treat yourself the way in which you want to be treated by others. Find something to do that is a challenge and when you complete that challenge, celebrate your strength.</p><p></p><p>Four years ago on my 8th wedding anniversary I discovered something about my H that completely blew my little world apart and it stained our anniversary the following year as well...we were still working through a lot. And every anniversary since that fateful one has never been very great - something always manages to ruin it for me, whether it's old memories or just simple day to day stuff. Well, this year I decided to change that. I was off from work and really had wanted to go to the beach and since difficult child was around, I woke her up to go with me. I baked H a pie for our anniversary and then I left for the beach. I had a lovely day. It was sunny and hot and I did what I wanted to do. Later, I thought H would take me to dinner, but he didn't. No flowers, no dinner, no card. I was hurt, but I didn't let it bring me down. Afterall, I did do what I wanted to do that day and I did it for me. I gave myself the gift of spending a few hours at the beach. The following night H took me to dinner; very anticlimactic. I have accepted that our anniversaries will never mean much to him, which is difficult for a romantic like myself. However, I will continue to be good for me and make nice memories for myself on those days. </p><p></p><p>I hope you're able to do that same. Turn this bad day into something that has happier meaning to YOU. Many gentle hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 64464, member: 2211"] I'm so sorry that this day conjures up bad memories. Like the others have said, try to change that. One way to change it is to make today a happy day. Do something special for yourself, nurture your soul, your heart - treat yourself the way in which you want to be treated by others. Find something to do that is a challenge and when you complete that challenge, celebrate your strength. Four years ago on my 8th wedding anniversary I discovered something about my H that completely blew my little world apart and it stained our anniversary the following year as well...we were still working through a lot. And every anniversary since that fateful one has never been very great - something always manages to ruin it for me, whether it's old memories or just simple day to day stuff. Well, this year I decided to change that. I was off from work and really had wanted to go to the beach and since difficult child was around, I woke her up to go with me. I baked H a pie for our anniversary and then I left for the beach. I had a lovely day. It was sunny and hot and I did what I wanted to do. Later, I thought H would take me to dinner, but he didn't. No flowers, no dinner, no card. I was hurt, but I didn't let it bring me down. Afterall, I did do what I wanted to do that day and I did it for me. I gave myself the gift of spending a few hours at the beach. The following night H took me to dinner; very anticlimactic. I have accepted that our anniversaries will never mean much to him, which is difficult for a romantic like myself. However, I will continue to be good for me and make nice memories for myself on those days. I hope you're able to do that same. Turn this bad day into something that has happier meaning to YOU. Many gentle hugs. [/QUOTE]
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