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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 678140" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Colleen, welcome back, I have missed your posting. I am sorry for your need to be here again.</p><p>Please do not be so hard on yourself. Kids grow up and make choices that have nothing to do with how they were raised, they make mistakes. They try other ways. It is not that you were a bad parent, or even that they are bad kids. They get caught up in wrong choices.</p><p></p><p>One thing leads to another.</p><p></p><p>It is not your fault, or mine, or any other broken hearted parent.</p><p></p><p>Kids make bad choices.</p><p></p><p>You suspect your son is still dealing.</p><p>Colleen you cannot keep doing this, jeopardizing your peace within.</p><p>It is a battle, we see what is happening and get swallowed up with it. Swallowed up by our love for our children. Our love blinds us and turns us into people who don't know what to do.</p><p>The kids see this and use it to their advantage. They see what we go through. It sends us into a spin.</p><p></p><p>They want us there. Down in the rabbit hole. It keeps us from making strong decisions.</p><p></p><p>That is the worst part about it. The kids know exactly what they are doing.</p><p></p><p>We go through guilt, blame, sadness, depression over what they are doing, and they want us to keep spinning with this, because then they can do what they want to do. They want to stay in our homes and run all over us.</p><p></p><p>Stop it Colleen.</p><p></p><p>Don't you let them do this to you.</p><p></p><p>Stand up. Get off your knees.</p><p></p><p>You know this, you are a counselor.</p><p></p><p>That is what the hardest part is, when our heart fights our heads. The things they are doing has put you in the FOG.</p><p></p><p>Get out of the FOG.</p><p></p><p>You don't belong in there.</p><p></p><p>Go see someone, alanon, a therapist. Sometimes we need strangers with flashlights to help us get out of this FOG our kids have sent us into.</p><p>We need others to look at us face to face and tell us things we don't want to hear.</p><p></p><p>You can do this Colleen. You are stronger than you think.</p><p></p><p>You are not alone. We have all been right where you are. It hurts so very much, I am so very, very sorry for your heart ache.</p><p>Keep posting, we are here for you. It helps to write out the pain and sorrow.....</p><p></p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 678140, member: 19522"] Hi Colleen, welcome back, I have missed your posting. I am sorry for your need to be here again. Please do not be so hard on yourself. Kids grow up and make choices that have nothing to do with how they were raised, they make mistakes. They try other ways. It is not that you were a bad parent, or even that they are bad kids. They get caught up in wrong choices. One thing leads to another. It is not your fault, or mine, or any other broken hearted parent. Kids make bad choices. You suspect your son is still dealing. Colleen you cannot keep doing this, jeopardizing your peace within. It is a battle, we see what is happening and get swallowed up with it. Swallowed up by our love for our children. Our love blinds us and turns us into people who don't know what to do. The kids see this and use it to their advantage. They see what we go through. It sends us into a spin. They want us there. Down in the rabbit hole. It keeps us from making strong decisions. That is the worst part about it. The kids know exactly what they are doing. We go through guilt, blame, sadness, depression over what they are doing, and they want us to keep spinning with this, because then they can do what they want to do. They want to stay in our homes and run all over us. Stop it Colleen. Don't you let them do this to you. Stand up. Get off your knees. You know this, you are a counselor. That is what the hardest part is, when our heart fights our heads. The things they are doing has put you in the FOG. Get out of the FOG. You don't belong in there. Go see someone, alanon, a therapist. Sometimes we need strangers with flashlights to help us get out of this FOG our kids have sent us into. We need others to look at us face to face and tell us things we don't want to hear. You can do this Colleen. You are stronger than you think. You are not alone. We have all been right where you are. It hurts so very much, I am so very, very sorry for your heart ache. Keep posting, we are here for you. It helps to write out the pain and sorrow..... (((Hugs))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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