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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 678174" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Colleen, this is my suggestion: make it clear to him that if he fails or has to withdraw from classes this semester you will not be paying for any more schooling. Also if he is using and/or selling drugs he will be caught and you will not bail him out, that he will have to accept the consequences of this and he will have to find another place to live.</p><p></p><p>Once you have drawn that line in the sand be prepared to enforce it. If you are not going to enforce it don't say it. He has to know you mean what you say. If he is using/selling it will quickly catch up with him and he will be in serious trouble. It is not your problem. I know you think it's easy for me to say this but it is true. He is an adult and he has to know you will not cover for him or shelter him from consequences. Many of our kids have to learn that. You know it will only continue to get worse. If he knows you are soft he will use that to his advantage.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 678174, member: 59"] Colleen, this is my suggestion: make it clear to him that if he fails or has to withdraw from classes this semester you will not be paying for any more schooling. Also if he is using and/or selling drugs he will be caught and you will not bail him out, that he will have to accept the consequences of this and he will have to find another place to live. Once you have drawn that line in the sand be prepared to enforce it. If you are not going to enforce it don't say it. He has to know you mean what you say. If he is using/selling it will quickly catch up with him and he will be in serious trouble. It is not your problem. I know you think it's easy for me to say this but it is true. He is an adult and he has to know you will not cover for him or shelter him from consequences. Many of our kids have to learn that. You know it will only continue to get worse. If he knows you are soft he will use that to his advantage. Stay strong. [/QUOTE]
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