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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 706802" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>Hello- I would write a letter to the Judge and ask that she not be given probation for obvious reasons, sets her up to fail. Perhaps it would be better if she did a few years jail time first, then of course probation after release. As hard as it is to think of our Difficult Child spending time in jail; sometimes it is the best thing for them to walk out. It gives them time to think about their life choices, get away from bad people they met, they are off the street, no drugs, drinking, perhaps go to school, learn a skill or trade in jail. Many years ago when son first got in trouble, I wrote a letter to the Judge and he listened to what I thought would be best for him. I had a friend who's son did cocaine, drug dealing for years. He finally ended up in jail for 5 years. He lost his wife, kids, job. When he got out- he moved away from the city he lived in to start a new life and didn't want to be tempted with old bad friends and habits. He has done well and even re-established a relationship with his children. He said it was the time in jail that gave him to time to realize how he chose to destroy his life. </p><p></p><p>I would not let her come to your house. She has a pattern of not completing probation in her past. I would mention to the Judge you are concerned about welfare of your grand-daughter and possible relapse with her moving on from her mother not being there for her should be granted probation only and no jail time. Your daughter has had many years to turn her life around and she chose another path to walk. YOUR grand-daughter deserves a safe, happy life now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 706802, member: 19951"] Hello- I would write a letter to the Judge and ask that she not be given probation for obvious reasons, sets her up to fail. Perhaps it would be better if she did a few years jail time first, then of course probation after release. As hard as it is to think of our Difficult Child spending time in jail; sometimes it is the best thing for them to walk out. It gives them time to think about their life choices, get away from bad people they met, they are off the street, no drugs, drinking, perhaps go to school, learn a skill or trade in jail. Many years ago when son first got in trouble, I wrote a letter to the Judge and he listened to what I thought would be best for him. I had a friend who's son did cocaine, drug dealing for years. He finally ended up in jail for 5 years. He lost his wife, kids, job. When he got out- he moved away from the city he lived in to start a new life and didn't want to be tempted with old bad friends and habits. He has done well and even re-established a relationship with his children. He said it was the time in jail that gave him to time to realize how he chose to destroy his life. I would not let her come to your house. She has a pattern of not completing probation in her past. I would mention to the Judge you are concerned about welfare of your grand-daughter and possible relapse with her moving on from her mother not being there for her should be granted probation only and no jail time. Your daughter has had many years to turn her life around and she chose another path to walk. YOUR grand-daughter deserves a safe, happy life now. [/QUOTE]
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