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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 49164" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>difficult child 3 is the one who insisted that he wasn't going to watch it. We said, "you'll enjoy it, it's slapstick comedy," he replied with, "If I don't laugh in the first half hour, I'm not watching any more of it." I said, "Deal!" because I was sure he would - and he did.</p><p></p><p>The movie night idea - we'd need to try a simplified version of it. easy child 2/difficult child 2 has been getting him to watch "Tokyo Fruits Basket", which is in episodes so he can limit himself to half an hour. But slowly, he's working his way through the series and now will sit and watch old episodes over again.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 3 is intensely avoiding some movies/TV series especially, purely on principle I feel but his avoidance is so intense we simply can't force it without undoing a lot of the progress we've made. Slowly I'm breaking down his defences, by having a movie or series on when he walks past; he sees something funny and watches it for a minute or two. When we watch it again, he sees a bit more, and so on. We really have to do it this slowly - it grates. But we know from experience that forcing him to watch something risks making him extremely phobic about it in the future.</p><p></p><p>I like the movie night idea, I think we can try to work towards it. But he's not ready for it yet. It really would be like trying to force a five-year-old to do it.</p><p></p><p>At least he will watch the rest of the movie tomorrow. With easy child here, she can persuade him to do almost anything. I was watching him tonight, snuggling up to her, head on her shoulder and looking soppy. At the dinner table! Although difficult child 3 & I are very close, he will drop me like a hot potato when easy child is around. I'm glad she's OK with it, and she really can get a lot out of him.</p><p></p><p>Actually, it was funny - easy child started going out with BF1 when difficult child 3 was only three years old. difficult child 3 was still non-verbal back then but we could see that he was VERY jealous, even though BF1 wasn't being demonstrative of anything - he just seemed to sense a rival for easy child's attention. We all went on an outing to the museum and we literally had to keep BF1 out of difficult child 3's line of sight, or difficult child 3 would begin screaming in rage, especially if BF1 went anywhere near easy child. Now - difficult child 3 adores BF1, he got over the jealousy in only a few months.</p><p></p><p>I think I'll make a big bucket of popcorn for tomorrow's movie session. husband & I can organise the packing while the kids watch movies. We're also bringing a book for difficult child 3, as well as some DVDs, with us on holiday. We can watch the DVDs on our laptop computers. On our last holiday two years ago this was how we got difficult child 3 to watch "It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World" - it was the only movie we had. Putting subtitles on for him always helps - although he's got great hearing, his understanding works much better when he can see the words as well as hear them.</p><p>And once he's seen a film he likes, with someone familiar, he is more likely to watch another film with the same actor. He likes Robin Williams, Mel Brooks, Gene Wilder - maybe I'll pack "Blazing Saddles" as well. DEFINITELY a popcorn bucket movie, that one!</p><p>He watches "Simpsons", which opens doors for us to show him the films these cartoons are sending up. "Young Frankenstein" as well, maybe.</p><p>Popcorn movies. Hmm. Maybe the way to go. Long winter evenings, snuggled up with hot chocolate with marshmallows, maybe snowing outside (if we're high enough in the mountains), easy child and popcorn - I think this might work. Wish us luck!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 49164, member: 1991"] difficult child 3 is the one who insisted that he wasn't going to watch it. We said, "you'll enjoy it, it's slapstick comedy," he replied with, "If I don't laugh in the first half hour, I'm not watching any more of it." I said, "Deal!" because I was sure he would - and he did. The movie night idea - we'd need to try a simplified version of it. easy child 2/difficult child 2 has been getting him to watch "Tokyo Fruits Basket", which is in episodes so he can limit himself to half an hour. But slowly, he's working his way through the series and now will sit and watch old episodes over again. difficult child 3 is intensely avoiding some movies/TV series especially, purely on principle I feel but his avoidance is so intense we simply can't force it without undoing a lot of the progress we've made. Slowly I'm breaking down his defences, by having a movie or series on when he walks past; he sees something funny and watches it for a minute or two. When we watch it again, he sees a bit more, and so on. We really have to do it this slowly - it grates. But we know from experience that forcing him to watch something risks making him extremely phobic about it in the future. I like the movie night idea, I think we can try to work towards it. But he's not ready for it yet. It really would be like trying to force a five-year-old to do it. At least he will watch the rest of the movie tomorrow. With easy child here, she can persuade him to do almost anything. I was watching him tonight, snuggling up to her, head on her shoulder and looking soppy. At the dinner table! Although difficult child 3 & I are very close, he will drop me like a hot potato when easy child is around. I'm glad she's OK with it, and she really can get a lot out of him. Actually, it was funny - easy child started going out with BF1 when difficult child 3 was only three years old. difficult child 3 was still non-verbal back then but we could see that he was VERY jealous, even though BF1 wasn't being demonstrative of anything - he just seemed to sense a rival for easy child's attention. We all went on an outing to the museum and we literally had to keep BF1 out of difficult child 3's line of sight, or difficult child 3 would begin screaming in rage, especially if BF1 went anywhere near easy child. Now - difficult child 3 adores BF1, he got over the jealousy in only a few months. I think I'll make a big bucket of popcorn for tomorrow's movie session. husband & I can organise the packing while the kids watch movies. We're also bringing a book for difficult child 3, as well as some DVDs, with us on holiday. We can watch the DVDs on our laptop computers. On our last holiday two years ago this was how we got difficult child 3 to watch "It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World" - it was the only movie we had. Putting subtitles on for him always helps - although he's got great hearing, his understanding works much better when he can see the words as well as hear them. And once he's seen a film he likes, with someone familiar, he is more likely to watch another film with the same actor. He likes Robin Williams, Mel Brooks, Gene Wilder - maybe I'll pack "Blazing Saddles" as well. DEFINITELY a popcorn bucket movie, that one! He watches "Simpsons", which opens doors for us to show him the films these cartoons are sending up. "Young Frankenstein" as well, maybe. Popcorn movies. Hmm. Maybe the way to go. Long winter evenings, snuggled up with hot chocolate with marshmallows, maybe snowing outside (if we're high enough in the mountains), easy child and popcorn - I think this might work. Wish us luck! Marg [/QUOTE]
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