Here is my dilemma. My 24 year old son who struggles with depression, major anxiety and adhd, hasn't held a job in a year and a half due to his anxiety. He realizes that he needs to get out there but is fearful of doing it. He was on medication for anxiety and depression but stopped it because he was not getting relief so went back to pot because that is what he says helps. I worry about the motivation aspect but what can I do? His doctor wants him to go to therapy before she will treat him anymore. My husband is suppose to arrange this with my son but is dragging his feet. Also he is supposed to be putting a deadline on getting a job since we currently support him. I have to stay out of this because I am my son's punching bag so that is why he does not live with us. I am so frustrated that nothing is getting done about this. My son has made a few positive moves by auditioning for a couple of shows, (he got a cameo role, no pay). He also volunteers as a lion dancer with a Chinese dance troupe. He gets depressed frequently and hates to leave his apartment. Another thing that bugs the hell out of me is my father-in-law. He has never treated my son with much love and encouragement and is quick to pass judgement. Everytime he calls, he tells us we must do tough love, even though he lives far away and we never see him. He and his family never try to understand the mental health aspect of this. Today was my father-in-law 'S birthday so I had my son call him. My son said it was awkward because my father-in-law was so distant on the phone.. Just prior to that call, my father-in-law had told my husband we needed to do tough love. Why can't my husband stand up for our son to his father? I know it sounds like I want the same thing but I don't believe it is anyone's business to pass judgement when they have not walked in our shoes. We know our son has to change and I know we have to put our foot down but I resent my father-in-law 'S attitude. It doesn't help. Any suggestions or thoughts. Feeling anxious and down right now.