Hello, I'm new here but not new to everyone's suffering at the hands of an adult daughter. My story is basically the same as others'. Eldest daughter of two, married; she has 3 kids 15, 13, 11. I was close to all of them even though they are 600 miles away. Long story short: she used me and I told her I wasn't going to clean her house and do her laundry whenever I visited (her invite). I was no longer going to give her $ ($35k) + my jewelry to sell. About the same time, I realized she was addicted to ---codone and had shopped docs in 2 states (Miss. & Tn.) to get various other drugs that she thought she needed. Some did not mix well. She got delusional paracytosis, totaled her SUV with the kids in it, had another wreck, fell asleep at the wheel with the kids in the car ( separate from the other incidents), had the pediatrician call her husband to drive her and a granddaughter home from his office because she was too drugged to drive, etc. The last time I saw her, I told her she needed help to get clean. And that if I found out that she EVER drove impaired with the kids in the car again, that I'd go to the police and try to either have her license pulled or the kids temp. removed. Her hubby was oblivious when I told him my theories. I also went to her doctors' offices and pharmacists and told them what was going on and then, because I could not speak to him, wrote her then current psychiatrist a letter documenting her abuse, wrecks, Rx incompatibilities, etc. I told every doctor that had prescribed her opiates that if they ever did that again with-o good reason (like surgery) I'd turn them into the state licensure board. I feel like I may have saved a life or two but have not seen her or heard from her in the 4 years since. That's the price I'm paying for "busting" her. She's since made me her scape goat to the rest of the family - I abused her, etc. (NO WAY) and that's why she won't talk to me, let me see the g'kids, etc. I alternate between tears and anger. Nobody else in the family will confront her about the drugs or me for fear of "losing" the grandkids like I have and because of her temper. Her mother in law will not let me speak to her when she is there and answers the phone. I am completely stonewalled by the entire family and have great relationships with all of them as long as I don't mention HER. My -ex won't get involved. So, while I know why she won't speak time, I also know that I did the right thing. I hear that she's been in a recovery unit twice. Good. Now she needs to learn to own her actions and take responsibility for her them, not blame me. That may never happen. I plan on telling the grandchildren "my side" if the story when they are adults, either in person or via letter with my will - with copies of all of the Rx's I photographed and her emails - for documentation, along with how very much I've missed them and love them - and their Mom.