Ok, I've gotta say this...whomever thought up the school year and decided kids needed idle time for 3 months did not have difficult children!!! I have 3 kids, the youngest of which is 2. I pay full time day care for her of $165 per week. My other 2, 15 and 8 are home all day...doing nothing...OMG! My oldest difficult child is given chores...does not do them...at ALL. My 8 yo difficult child is given chores...he does them...thankfully he has not exhibited the ODD yet like his sister, and the ADHD is manageable for him with his medications as long as he has a list. We just remind him if he does the chores all in the am, then he has the rest of the day to do what he likes to do...works for him. The oldest is a WHOLE different story..will sort of do chores if she wants to do something on the weekend. The kid has depression, so she has no motivation. She refused to take her medications, so I stopped taking her to her counselor. She really didn't do anything for her anyhow. Basically I have wasted thousands of dollars on copays and medications and have the same trouble I've had since the child was 10 and the symptoms revealed themselves. I get so annoyed because I've tried everything to try to motivate her...an allowance, time with her friends, computer time...nothing works. Consequences don't really work either. I know it's probably the depression but short of forcing them down her throat I don't know how to get her to take her medications... Then there's the dilemma...I DO NOT TRUST HER...Any trust I had was ruined a long time ago. Lie after lie after lie I had caught her in. I know she's lieing when her lips are moving. Once she knows she's been found out she still tries to lie until finally she will admit to whatever it is. This is who is home with my 8 yo son during the day. She is a person here for him should he need something...and I do not have any other options. I cannot afford them...I feel like a horrible mother for leaving him with her sometimes. I will say that my son broke 2 fingers about a month ago while my husband and I were at work. He was playing "Let's see who's stronger" with his buddy and they picked up the seat part of a concrete bench...the seat part won. He broke the tops of his middle and ring fingers on his left hand, cut his fingers pretty badly as well, and pulled up part of one finger nail when he pulled his hand out from under. My oldest handled it very well. Although she was freaked, she managed to maintain enough composure to call me at work and tell me what was going on. I directed her what to do, and immediately left work. A drive that normally takes me 25 minutes took me 11! Since I cannot afford to put my son in Summer Camp and my 14 yo difficult child is going to be watching him and I cannot quit my job, I guess I'm going to have to suck it up. I worry that my poor, sweet, 8 you difficult child will end up warped from being subjected to her!! There, I said it. I feel awful for thinking that way of my own kid, but it's not like she hasn't given me reason to.. Maybe we should have stayed living in Germany (we were stationed over there for 3 1/2 years). They had school year round. Yes, they had breaks, but not for months at a time. I feel like any moment my head is going to pop!!!!