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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 618772" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Did his birthmother drink or use drugs while she was pregnant? If so, this could have deeply affected his developing brain and cause damage.</p><p>Did he have a very chaotic life in the early years? This too could cause problems...attachment problems and, if many men came and went, maybe he was sexually abused.</p><p>You brought up his uncle having a child. Was this uncle a significant person in his life? Any chance he was abused by him?</p><p>I'm sorry you are going through this. Often children who have very unstable early lives turn out to not trust anybody and become "me" centric and uncontrollable and, unfortunately, most mental health professionals don't recognize the attachment problems or know how to treat it. A great deal of adopted kids have this problem. It is not something any human can expect to fix. It has little to do with good or bad parenting. </p><p>At his age, it may be best to find long term care out of the home. You need to be safe and so do his younger siblings.</p><p>Hugs for your hurting mommy heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 618772, member: 1550"] Did his birthmother drink or use drugs while she was pregnant? If so, this could have deeply affected his developing brain and cause damage. Did he have a very chaotic life in the early years? This too could cause problems...attachment problems and, if many men came and went, maybe he was sexually abused. You brought up his uncle having a child. Was this uncle a significant person in his life? Any chance he was abused by him? I'm sorry you are going through this. Often children who have very unstable early lives turn out to not trust anybody and become "me" centric and uncontrollable and, unfortunately, most mental health professionals don't recognize the attachment problems or know how to treat it. A great deal of adopted kids have this problem. It is not something any human can expect to fix. It has little to do with good or bad parenting. At his age, it may be best to find long term care out of the home. You need to be safe and so do his younger siblings. Hugs for your hurting mommy heart. [/QUOTE]
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