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Surely his demise can't be far away? Sorry, VERY long!
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 655693" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Your ex made a very generous offer but there were conditons attached. Ex was not out of line asking for Difficult Child to get his licence and pay for insurance. I do not blame him for withdrawing the offer. Difficult Child's reaction of being mad is very typical in that they expect others to take care of them and do not understand why they are asked to bear some responsibility. When you give them anything they will not take care of it and when they destroy it the will expect more, at least that's how it's been with my son.</p><p> </p><p>Even if your ex just gave him the van it will solve nothing for your son other than giving him a place to crash. I understand what that means for you, it will offer you some peace of mind but in the end nothing has really changed.</p><p> </p><p>My son is also in CO and I got a desperate message from him one night telling me he was going to freeze to death. I live in the Midwest now and even if I still lived in CO there would be nothing I could do. My son managed to find a place to sleep for the night and the nights there after.</p><p>I have suggested he go to a shelter, he will have nothing to do with them as they have rules, no drugs and they have a curfew.</p><p> </p><p>I had to make a choice to let it go. I cannot allow worrying about my son to consume my life. My son has made his choice to live his life the way he wants and nothing I do will change that.</p><p> </p><p>I really do hope you will be able to let go. It's not good for you to worry about him. Worrying does nothing, it changes nothing.</p><p> </p><p>((HUGS)) to you....................</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 655693, member: 18516"] Your ex made a very generous offer but there were conditons attached. Ex was not out of line asking for Difficult Child to get his licence and pay for insurance. I do not blame him for withdrawing the offer. Difficult Child's reaction of being mad is very typical in that they expect others to take care of them and do not understand why they are asked to bear some responsibility. When you give them anything they will not take care of it and when they destroy it the will expect more, at least that's how it's been with my son. Even if your ex just gave him the van it will solve nothing for your son other than giving him a place to crash. I understand what that means for you, it will offer you some peace of mind but in the end nothing has really changed. My son is also in CO and I got a desperate message from him one night telling me he was going to freeze to death. I live in the Midwest now and even if I still lived in CO there would be nothing I could do. My son managed to find a place to sleep for the night and the nights there after. I have suggested he go to a shelter, he will have nothing to do with them as they have rules, no drugs and they have a curfew. I had to make a choice to let it go. I cannot allow worrying about my son to consume my life. My son has made his choice to live his life the way he wants and nothing I do will change that. I really do hope you will be able to let go. It's not good for you to worry about him. Worrying does nothing, it changes nothing. ((HUGS)) to you.................... [/QUOTE]
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