I am postponing surgery for a month due to intense stress. It is not life saving surgery. I can tolerate the discomfort until I have a better idea of what impact son's situation is going to have on well everything.
I agree...if it can wait, then you need to until you can concentrate on healing yourself. The timing is wrong. I hope you do well until then and heal swiftly after. I think about you and your Difficult Child often.