I'm not certain yet, but I suspect that while visiting her bio-dad this past weekend, he may have given her some pot. Two weeks ago, while stressing about difficult child's recent suicidal thoughts, exh told me I "needed to smoke a big fat joint" - as if that would help us all. Pot has been his mainstay drug of choice forever and it's partially the reason I left him way back. I couldn't give a rat's you-know-what how he chooses to kill himself, but if he's giving difficult child pot to "help her cope" (like it's helped him all these years-ha!) I will flip. difficult child came home stoned last night. This is not habitual and only the 2nd time ever that I've known about. She was with her best friend who may have access to pot from one of her cousins, but I just have this really strong gut feeling that difficult child got it from her dad. Prior to her suicidal episode 3 weeks ago, alcohol precipated and she now says she will not drink alcohol...but I guess she feels it's okay to smoke pot. And what if exh DID give her the pot? He lives out of our state, 3 hours away. She is 17. I can try to stop her from seeing him until she is 18 (wouldn't be that hard anyway). By then, she can do so on her own. I can yell at him and everything else, but I can't prove it and I mean, what else can I do? I always worried that this would happen. He would so much rather treat his ails with pot. Ironically, he has always been against giving difficult child prescription medications. I'd love some feedback. I know in my head that I just want to bite off his head, chew it up and feed it to his dog, but obviously I can't do that. And then there is the issue with how to make difficult child see that it's totally messed up for her dad to be giving her pot. I realize that I'm guessing at this point, but did you ever have a gut feeling about something and just KNOW that you're totally on target?? That's how I feel about this.