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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 626332" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Just as different medications are appropriate for our individual difficult children with the same diagnosis, different types of treatments/interventions work for some and not for others.</p><p></p><p>But you will never know until you try.</p><p></p><p>My son, who was very, very young with his adhd (highly impulsive/combined) manifested itself, it was much later (2nd grade) with the really inappropriate/violent behavior began - raging at school was the worst of it - flipping desks, papers destroyed - classroom being quickly cleared of children to insure their safety while my son was left with one adult in supervision until I could get there to take him home. He began talk therapy (clinical psychologist) within a week of his first violent rage and continued all the way through his first year of high school. </p><p></p><p>He was treated by the same doctor the entire time and it was great for him. The benefits were numerous. He had someone "outside" to talk/play with - and they did sit on the floor and do legos and such at the beginning. Eventually she began to make him aware of what it felt like when he was becoming frustrated, angry, anxious. Once he was able to "feel" it coming, she began to work with him on coping mechanisms and self comforting options. A piece of velcro with the hard side up was pasted to his desk. When he began to feel anxious or frustrated he would rub his fingers over it. His classroom teacher had a pad of drawing paper, markers, a pack of crackers and a bottle of water at the ready. If she saw him begin to express physical signs of agitation, she would offer him his special box and he could sit at her desk (which was behind the other kids as she didn't use her desk when teaching) until he was calm. At the end of the school day I could plan no errands or such - he needed to come straight home and sit quietly because it was so difficult for him to remain in control all day that he needed decomposer time.</p><p></p><p>He was given rewards for continuous days without meltdowns like feeding the classroom fish or going to the library and picking a book that the asst principal would ready him one on one on Friday afternoons. His therapist worked close with offering her input to the school through me, attending annual IEP meetings for a few years, and his school administrators were open to her suggestions.</p><p></p><p>Once maturity began to kick in, talk therapy moved to a different focus.</p><p></p><p>I personally feel talk therapy depends on the patient, the doctor, and the support the given to the recommendations, reactions to the revelations, and how supportive other formal settings are (like school, sunday school, scouts, tutoring, sports coaches, etc.). </p><p></p><p>Working for positive forward motion and future success for our difficult children is as layered as the sedimentary rock they study in science and can be as sensitive as walking on eggs.</p><p></p><p>As I approach the final 4 weeks until my difficult child graduates from high school, I remember how hard it was to even visualize getting to this point when we were at our darkest and most difficult hours. But we are almost there and talk therapy was definitely one of the reasons we are.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 626332, member: 805"] Just as different medications are appropriate for our individual difficult children with the same diagnosis, different types of treatments/interventions work for some and not for others. But you will never know until you try. My son, who was very, very young with his adhd (highly impulsive/combined) manifested itself, it was much later (2nd grade) with the really inappropriate/violent behavior began - raging at school was the worst of it - flipping desks, papers destroyed - classroom being quickly cleared of children to insure their safety while my son was left with one adult in supervision until I could get there to take him home. He began talk therapy (clinical psychologist) within a week of his first violent rage and continued all the way through his first year of high school. He was treated by the same doctor the entire time and it was great for him. The benefits were numerous. He had someone "outside" to talk/play with - and they did sit on the floor and do legos and such at the beginning. Eventually she began to make him aware of what it felt like when he was becoming frustrated, angry, anxious. Once he was able to "feel" it coming, she began to work with him on coping mechanisms and self comforting options. A piece of velcro with the hard side up was pasted to his desk. When he began to feel anxious or frustrated he would rub his fingers over it. His classroom teacher had a pad of drawing paper, markers, a pack of crackers and a bottle of water at the ready. If she saw him begin to express physical signs of agitation, she would offer him his special box and he could sit at her desk (which was behind the other kids as she didn't use her desk when teaching) until he was calm. At the end of the school day I could plan no errands or such - he needed to come straight home and sit quietly because it was so difficult for him to remain in control all day that he needed decomposer time. He was given rewards for continuous days without meltdowns like feeding the classroom fish or going to the library and picking a book that the asst principal would ready him one on one on Friday afternoons. His therapist worked close with offering her input to the school through me, attending annual IEP meetings for a few years, and his school administrators were open to her suggestions. Once maturity began to kick in, talk therapy moved to a different focus. I personally feel talk therapy depends on the patient, the doctor, and the support the given to the recommendations, reactions to the revelations, and how supportive other formal settings are (like school, sunday school, scouts, tutoring, sports coaches, etc.). Working for positive forward motion and future success for our difficult children is as layered as the sedimentary rock they study in science and can be as sensitive as walking on eggs. As I approach the final 4 weeks until my difficult child graduates from high school, I remember how hard it was to even visualize getting to this point when we were at our darkest and most difficult hours. But we are almost there and talk therapy was definitely one of the reasons we are. Good luck. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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