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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 72005" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I don't see that there is a chemical solution to this because the problem itself is so complex.</p><p></p><p>It boils down to problems with change. He needs time to prepare himself and to get his head around what is happening. A timetable can help; or a chart on a calendar, so he can look at it and see that he has a day with dad on such-and-such a day.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad his dad was understanding about it and went away for half an hour. It is good that you can do this. If he had also thrown a tantrum and insisted high-handedly on his parental rights, you would have had big problems.</p><p></p><p>Part of the difficulty with change is locked up with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), but a big part of it is simply the child having a lot of trouble every day in trying to make sense of the world. They develop their own strategy (whatever it might be) to deal with things, one of those strategies being placing a high value on things being the same, as much as possible. Routine. </p><p></p><p>If you can plan it into difficult child's routine, to include the visits, it might be easier.</p><p></p><p>I bet you're having fun with homework, too! And evening routines, etc. It all goes together.</p><p></p><p>By all means talk to the doctor, but don't expect a medication to fix this, it's just too large an issue. </p><p></p><p>(and they STILL won't accept Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) as a diagnosis? They're crazy!)</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 72005, member: 1991"] I don't see that there is a chemical solution to this because the problem itself is so complex. It boils down to problems with change. He needs time to prepare himself and to get his head around what is happening. A timetable can help; or a chart on a calendar, so he can look at it and see that he has a day with dad on such-and-such a day. I'm glad his dad was understanding about it and went away for half an hour. It is good that you can do this. If he had also thrown a tantrum and insisted high-handedly on his parental rights, you would have had big problems. Part of the difficulty with change is locked up with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), but a big part of it is simply the child having a lot of trouble every day in trying to make sense of the world. They develop their own strategy (whatever it might be) to deal with things, one of those strategies being placing a high value on things being the same, as much as possible. Routine. If you can plan it into difficult child's routine, to include the visits, it might be easier. I bet you're having fun with homework, too! And evening routines, etc. It all goes together. By all means talk to the doctor, but don't expect a medication to fix this, it's just too large an issue. (and they STILL won't accept Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) as a diagnosis? They're crazy!) Marg [/QUOTE]
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