Teacher is sneaky. lol She set up a rush meeting for when I was going to Evan's Grandparents day thing so that she knew Katie would have a ride. I knew she'd bailed once, I didn't realize she'd already done it twice. I didn't get to meet with his teacher because I was stuck in the Grandparents thing........but I did get to make certain that the school had my new contact number for all 3 kids. I didn't let her leave the school until it was done. But of course I did get to hear about all the complaints. Evan refuses to sit still at all. He refuses / ignores all classroom rules, does not play well with the other kids, can't stay on task....is disruptive ect. Well, I'm not surprised and I told Katie so. I said well gee those kids in the program were reading and spelling, Katie. Evan knows maybe 5 letters tops.......and can count to 5 on a good day. He doesn't know shapes or colors either. So the kid is totally lost for pete's sake. It's like everyday he's plopped onto a different planet. I watched him as closely as I could during his program. The kids were singing how to spell their color words. When he wasn't waving at me, the child had not a clue. And the aide was like right there afraid to death he was suddenly going to become disruptive. And she did have to constantly talk to him. The IEP meeting is Nov 11 and I'm going to try hard to be in it. Katie tried to tell me he was ADHD and I told her bull. He's LOST. I said imagine yourself sitting in a classroom with 25 other kids who are reading, spelling, writing, ect and you don't even know your alphabet.......how to count. He's overwhelmed! Why not get up and try to do something else, he's not "getting" what is going on. (not to mention the whole he's never been disciplined thing) Actually I could care less if they test him for ADHD. I just hope to heck they come up with a way to help the poor kid catch up. It's not just a case of schoolwork, he's got to learn everything....rules, how to sit still and function in a classroom, socialization.....everything. Poor kid. After the program I hugged him and told him I loved him. He kept telling me he loved me over and over in that desperate thing he does that unsettles me. in my opinion I've not hugely bonded with him, so I'm not sure why he's doing it. Makes me sick to see and know what his parents have done to him. Also makes me furious, which is why I made it clear to katie that I knew the reason he is the way he is.