Katie asked me to take her to the meeting with Evan's teacher and school staff on monday morning. She may have her date wrong, I believe monday is Columbus day? She needed the ride and I agreed so that I know what's going on. I already have a good idea, but katie likes to twist things so that she's the victim, so I'd rather have it from the horses mouth so to speak. So far Evan's kindergarden experience has been hades on earth for his teacher. I'm not the least bit surprised, I predicted as much. Katie thinks it's a preliminary meeting for an IEP. It may very well be, I dunno. Honestly? It wouldn't surprise me if it was a meeting to ask her wth does she do in the parenting dept anyway, nothing?? And I know Katie is going to try to tell them that Evan is just like his brother, so of course he'd have to be MRDD too. Uh, no. The boy can learn. He wants to learn. He learns just fine if someone actively teaches him. He's not mentally slow. He is developmentally delayed, but that is because his parents treat him like he's an infant. His problem is a complete lack of discipline. Up until the moment he started school, no one (except me and husband and his aunts) has ever made him behave or follow rules. The literal wild child. The result is that his parents don't even have any control over his behavior unless M just plain grabs him and holds on for dear life. And even that doesn't work half the time. The teacher complains that he won't sit still. Uh, no. He's never been made to sit still. He won't listen to her. Uh, no. He's never been taught to recognize authority. He won't follow classroom rules. Uh, no. Rules don't apply to him, it's what he has been taught for the past 5 1/2 yrs. He doesn't socialize well with the other kids. Well, that happens when you've spent your entire life socially isolated. Man, you've no idea how sorry I feel for his teacher. She must dread going to work each morning. I know that's awful to say, and in many ways it's not Evan's fault, but still. I'm not going to blame the teacher either. Now the interesting part is going to be Nana managing to keep her mouth shut during this meeting. My tongue will probably be bleeding by the time we leave from biting it so hard. I have no clue what good an IEP is going to do him. Except get him speech classes which he desperately needs. I'm sure the teacher can't understand him either, which is not helping. His own parents can't understand him 99 percent of the time. It takes me forever to get what he's saying......and most of that is because I'll keep asking him questions and trying different things until I get it right. Heaven help me if they ask my opinion. And so far they usually do. I may blurt out mandatory parenting classes for the parents. omg Katie thinks his teacher should be happy Evan doesn't try to runaway from the school like Alex used to.......... oh wow. I'm pretty sure he doesn't because the school is in the freakin middle of a corn field out of town. No, I won't talk to katie. Does no good. Even if she asks, I no longer offer advice either. She doesn't listen or take it anyway. So what's the point? It would be nice for at least one human being other than family to have a major lightbulb moment that in this circumstance the parents are totally to blame and take appropriate action. They won't of course. But a Nana can dream. blah Oh.......and this meeting has only come about after 2 solid months of the teacher trying to reach katie by phone and notes home that were ignored.