My 17yo is really doing me in. She is my 3rd child, I have one more younger.
Right now, although it is Thursday AM at 9:12, she is lying in bed.
She cuts school and doesn't even sneak around about it, just blatantly refuses to get out of bed. Does this about 1-2 days a week.
She did this last year (junior year) and almost was suspended for a semester due to academic probation and attendance probation. Now, here we go again.
This is SO stressful for me. I have had a couple of heart attacks (two years ago) and my heart is functioning at about half what it should. So I can barely afford to deal with the stress of this....
Just knowing she is snoring away eats at me. I'm all wound up. I don't know what to do anymore. We have tried counseling and she was uncooperative, it was fruitless.
My eldest daughter, who is almost 23, lives at home and is a body piercer and tattoo apprentice. My second daughter is a senior at college and doing very well. My youngest, a son, is in 8th grade and also doing well in school, but has no interest in outside activities.
All of my kids were very bright in elementary and junior high, in the gifted program. I feel like somewhere along the line, I failed, since my eldest and now my 17yo are not turning out very well.
I can't figure out what I did wrong, I was a stay at home mom, this was my career choice and I feel like a huge failure. I dedicated my life to these kids and now this.
I'm sorry to vent, I just feel so awful.
What can I do, how can I get my 17yo back on track? If this keeps up I almost feel like I need to just kick her out of the house when she turns 18 in October. Would this make her worse or better? Would she realize her error and turn around or would she disappear forever?
I no longer trust my judgement or parenting skills.
Please help.
Kris
Right now, although it is Thursday AM at 9:12, she is lying in bed.
She cuts school and doesn't even sneak around about it, just blatantly refuses to get out of bed. Does this about 1-2 days a week.
She did this last year (junior year) and almost was suspended for a semester due to academic probation and attendance probation. Now, here we go again.
This is SO stressful for me. I have had a couple of heart attacks (two years ago) and my heart is functioning at about half what it should. So I can barely afford to deal with the stress of this....
Just knowing she is snoring away eats at me. I'm all wound up. I don't know what to do anymore. We have tried counseling and she was uncooperative, it was fruitless.
My eldest daughter, who is almost 23, lives at home and is a body piercer and tattoo apprentice. My second daughter is a senior at college and doing very well. My youngest, a son, is in 8th grade and also doing well in school, but has no interest in outside activities.
All of my kids were very bright in elementary and junior high, in the gifted program. I feel like somewhere along the line, I failed, since my eldest and now my 17yo are not turning out very well.
I can't figure out what I did wrong, I was a stay at home mom, this was my career choice and I feel like a huge failure. I dedicated my life to these kids and now this.
I'm sorry to vent, I just feel so awful.
What can I do, how can I get my 17yo back on track? If this keeps up I almost feel like I need to just kick her out of the house when she turns 18 in October. Would this make her worse or better? Would she realize her error and turn around or would she disappear forever?
I no longer trust my judgement or parenting skills.
Please help.
Kris