I have two sons. 19 and 17. They lost their father to cancer this week... Younger son at age 14 had a lot of trouble going to his father's house. He didn't like his live in girlfriend. And for just several reasons had a lot of anxiety when he was there. No, no physical abuse. But anxiety attacks. Wanting to come back to my house. Father got angry because they wouldn't tell a judge that they wanted to live with him more. Had told them he didn't even need to be alive if they didn't care about seeing him. His father telling him not to be a mama's boy because he wanted to come back to my house. For these reasons, I took him to a lawyer to see if he had to go there. She said he did not. His father then called harrassed him and saying, You're going to have to tell me why you don't want to come. This upset him greatly. I talked to a lawyer again. She said I didn't have to let him talk to him. This led to a 3 year estrangment. There was some texting between them but not much more. Then the father got cancer. Upon much encouragement, I convinced him to see him again. He has been seeing him about a year. This week he died. My sons' family members hate me over this. I brought my sons to the hospital when he was very sick. They drive but had never been to this hospital. It was dark and about an hour away. Ex's sister met me with great anger and convinced the rest of the family to move away from me. I did end up leaving my sons there with ex's family with the understanding I would be back in the morning to get them. My older son began texting me. It was pretty evident his father would not make it. SO my father and I drove back to the hospital for support of my sons. It was a cold and icy reception by the family members. So much so I wondered if I should go to the funeral. I did sit in the same waiting room with them as there was no other. But when they moved the ex to ICU, I stayed put and told the kids I'd be there for them. I plan to go to the funeral. I was on the fence about it but feel I should be there for my sons. I have decided to not go through the line. I explained this to my younger son. I told him I felt it made his aunt uncomfortable that I was there. Also the ex's new wife. Son is wore out but seems stressed by this. I don't want to go through the line and them refuse to shake my hand. Am I wrong for going at all?