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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 729348" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Billiesue. Lots of stuff going on with your ex passing. I am sorry for the hardship of it. Everyone grieves differently. There is so much going through our minds as we process the loss. I am sure for a teenager it is much more complex.Add issues like a three year estrangement and possible troubles with the will and icy receptions......ugh.I am sure your son is exhausted from grieving and perplexed with the adults around him reacting in their own way. </p><p>Memories of his father’s appearance in the hospital may be reeling through (this happened to me after hubs passing) I would get flashbacks (sometimes still do) and anxiety attacks that left me short of breath. I would replay the days leading up to his passing and went through all of the stages of grieving. Anger, guilt, denial, sadness, bargaining, etc.</p><p>I think giving your son some space to feel what he feels may help. Let him come to you. </p><p>You sound very close and it probably upsets him how is father’s family views you. This is another loss on top of it all. Add on possible weirdness about the will, it is a heap of stuff for a young boy.</p><p>When hubs passed, my son didn’t talk much about it.He was super involved with school and he just buried himself with work. I offered counseling and he said he didn’t need it. Months later he asked to go. It is nearing two years and only now, my son talks about losing his Dad. I don’t press him. He is super sensitive. There are moments when he needs to be alone, or he is moody. Or, he just needs to get in the ocean. I think it is all a part of him processing this deep loss.</p><p>Remember Billisue this is new territory for your son. It is still so fresh. One week is hardly time at all. </p><p>With your love, understanding and patience your son will be okay. He just needs time to heal.</p><p>I am sorry for how difficult this is. </p><p>There are so many things going on, I’m sure your son feels a bit bewildered.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 729348, member: 19522"] Hi Billiesue. Lots of stuff going on with your ex passing. I am sorry for the hardship of it. Everyone grieves differently. There is so much going through our minds as we process the loss. I am sure for a teenager it is much more complex.Add issues like a three year estrangement and possible troubles with the will and icy receptions......ugh.I am sure your son is exhausted from grieving and perplexed with the adults around him reacting in their own way. Memories of his father’s appearance in the hospital may be reeling through (this happened to me after hubs passing) I would get flashbacks (sometimes still do) and anxiety attacks that left me short of breath. I would replay the days leading up to his passing and went through all of the stages of grieving. Anger, guilt, denial, sadness, bargaining, etc. I think giving your son some space to feel what he feels may help. Let him come to you. You sound very close and it probably upsets him how is father’s family views you. This is another loss on top of it all. Add on possible weirdness about the will, it is a heap of stuff for a young boy. When hubs passed, my son didn’t talk much about it.He was super involved with school and he just buried himself with work. I offered counseling and he said he didn’t need it. Months later he asked to go. It is nearing two years and only now, my son talks about losing his Dad. I don’t press him. He is super sensitive. There are moments when he needs to be alone, or he is moody. Or, he just needs to get in the ocean. I think it is all a part of him processing this deep loss. Remember Billisue this is new territory for your son. It is still so fresh. One week is hardly time at all. With your love, understanding and patience your son will be okay. He just needs time to heal. I am sorry for how difficult this is. There are so many things going on, I’m sure your son feels a bit bewildered. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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