How do you guys handle your teens with cell phones? What rules do you establish before they get them, etc? Do you start with parental controls, or add them "as needed"? Cgfg is here for half the summer. While I am not ok with her having a cell phone to use at her discretion day in and day out (especially during school), all of her few friends do have cell phones, and they all text and facebook each other, and it leaves her out. None of them talk on the phone anymore. Cgfg's mother, while ok with buying her a switchblade, won't let her use the computer for anything social such as email or facebook, she never allows cgfg to go spend time with friends, and even more rarely lets someone spend time at their house, and they don't even have a landline phone, so she's even further isolated. I recently upgraded to an Iphone, and difficult child 1's number has been "suspended" on our account since he left for the military 4 years ago. I had my old phone activated on difficult child 1's number so she can call and text friends, at least while she's at our house. The phone is actually broken, so she can not send any type of media message or picture, and it will not access the internet. Actually kind of perfect for her. We have a landline for the internet and for me to use when I work from home. We get about 8 calls on it a day from bill collector's for my ex. No kidding. So unless I'm actively using it for work or we're expecting a call, we don't even turn the ringer on. I'd actually like to look into just getting rid of it, but I wont until the kids have some other way to call if we aren't around. For now, the plan is for it to stay at our house, and she can use it when she's there. I guess I'm sort of hoping her mom will let her have it at her house, too. While she doesn't need to be gallyvanting the countryside at 14, she barely has any friends as it is, and I think its equally as bad for her to be so isolated from the ones she does have, too. One of these days, the girl will explode, and the friends she does have are good kids. So...We haven't sat down with formal rules yet. I told her what it will and won't do, and that for right now, I expect her to handle it responsibly. Don't sit talking on it all day long, and no texting all night long, etc, and even if something should happen and it can send pics or get on the net, that she do the right thing and not, and for now, there are no parental controls, but don't give me reason to put them on it. That's it, pending discussion with husband and other parents on how they handle it. So...what do ya'll do?