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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 719505" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Susie gave some great advice.</p><p></p><p>If these twins were neglected or passed around a lot or abused early in life (infant to five) they may have attachment disorder.if they do (look it up) you cant really do anything logical to make them change as they have learned deep inside, where trust forms in infancy, that they can only trust themselves, nobody else. And they dont respond to love and areoften nice just to get favors, but they have a very low level of conscience, empathy or remorse. There is attachment therapy (with different levels of success) but if they wont go you cant force it.</p><p></p><p>I would start calling CPS or the cops (the cops have to report each call to CPS if they are minors) so that they know you are trying and, if needed, can help place them out of home if they hurt your baby. Never leave them alone with that baby. Ever. Sleep with the baby in your room, lock the door, put cameras and alarms on their doors. Very disturbed young teens often do their worst when we are sleepinng.</p><p></p><p>Did Mom have a lot of boyfriends? They could habe been sexually abused and often the abuse is forgotten in the conscious mind. But the sub conscious mind remembers and they can act out on much younger children. This happened in ourvlives with a child we adopted at age 11. He ended up being taken to a lock down residential trearnent home. We discontinued the adoption because my two youngest kids had been his victims and were terrified of him.</p><p></p><p>Dont be us. Take precautions for that newborn even if you think "oh, they would never do that" like we had thought. Our kids were 3 and 5 and too afraid of his threat to kill us all in a fire to tell us what he was doing.</p><p></p><p>If you werent having a baby this would be less critical. Do you have pets?</p><p></p><p>There is little you can do on your own if they can legally refuse therapy. So do call the cops. You will need to run your home like a prison once the baby comes unless they are in out of home residential.</p><p></p><p>Is your husband on the same page as you? This is critical and you may need marital therapy if he is pretending his twins arent that bad or if you and him differ on how to do this or what to do.</p><p></p><p>Did Mom drink or drug or both during pregnancy? If so it could have affected their developing brains too. Look up fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. Something other than poor discipline is wrong with these kids.</p><p></p><p>Hugs. I am so sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 719505, member: 1550"] Susie gave some great advice. If these twins were neglected or passed around a lot or abused early in life (infant to five) they may have attachment disorder.if they do (look it up) you cant really do anything logical to make them change as they have learned deep inside, where trust forms in infancy, that they can only trust themselves, nobody else. And they dont respond to love and areoften nice just to get favors, but they have a very low level of conscience, empathy or remorse. There is attachment therapy (with different levels of success) but if they wont go you cant force it. I would start calling CPS or the cops (the cops have to report each call to CPS if they are minors) so that they know you are trying and, if needed, can help place them out of home if they hurt your baby. Never leave them alone with that baby. Ever. Sleep with the baby in your room, lock the door, put cameras and alarms on their doors. Very disturbed young teens often do their worst when we are sleepinng. Did Mom have a lot of boyfriends? They could habe been sexually abused and often the abuse is forgotten in the conscious mind. But the sub conscious mind remembers and they can act out on much younger children. This happened in ourvlives with a child we adopted at age 11. He ended up being taken to a lock down residential trearnent home. We discontinued the adoption because my two youngest kids had been his victims and were terrified of him. Dont be us. Take precautions for that newborn even if you think "oh, they would never do that" like we had thought. Our kids were 3 and 5 and too afraid of his threat to kill us all in a fire to tell us what he was doing. If you werent having a baby this would be less critical. Do you have pets? There is little you can do on your own if they can legally refuse therapy. So do call the cops. You will need to run your home like a prison once the baby comes unless they are in out of home residential. Is your husband on the same page as you? This is critical and you may need marital therapy if he is pretending his twins arent that bad or if you and him differ on how to do this or what to do. Did Mom drink or drug or both during pregnancy? If so it could have affected their developing brains too. Look up fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. Something other than poor discipline is wrong with these kids. Hugs. I am so sorry. [/QUOTE]
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