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<blockquote data-quote="envisablepuppet" data-source="post: 71005" data-attributes="member: 585"><p>If you did it with the understanding that it is a temporary situation and give them a deadline when they have to get their own place it might work for a short time. Maybe a couple of months.</p><p></p><p>I can say from experience that once a child is on their their own and used to doing as they please, they aren't really willing to follow the same rules they had before. They don't like being told what to do on any level even if the advice is well meant. It doesnt matter if it's as small as keeping a room clean.</p><p></p><p>If you could all view it as a visit and not a long term fix it might be ok. I can see good things and bad things in this arrangement. You had him leave for a reason. Even tho he is no longer using there will still be things both sides will find very hard to deal with and then some.</p><p></p><p>I'm a softie when it comes to my daughter but there is a lot of stress with having her here. He will still have some of the same habits that drove you nuts before. But on the other hand, it would give both you and your son an opportunity to enjoy each other without the nightmare of the drug issues.</p><p></p><p>There will be that honeymoon period but what happens after that? Thats why short term may be the best choice.</p><p></p><p>Me, I'd probably let him stay. He's your kid, you love him and you want to help. This is a hard decision for you but in the end your the only one that can make it.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Lea</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="envisablepuppet, post: 71005, member: 585"] If you did it with the understanding that it is a temporary situation and give them a deadline when they have to get their own place it might work for a short time. Maybe a couple of months. I can say from experience that once a child is on their their own and used to doing as they please, they aren't really willing to follow the same rules they had before. They don't like being told what to do on any level even if the advice is well meant. It doesnt matter if it's as small as keeping a room clean. If you could all view it as a visit and not a long term fix it might be ok. I can see good things and bad things in this arrangement. You had him leave for a reason. Even tho he is no longer using there will still be things both sides will find very hard to deal with and then some. I'm a softie when it comes to my daughter but there is a lot of stress with having her here. He will still have some of the same habits that drove you nuts before. But on the other hand, it would give both you and your son an opportunity to enjoy each other without the nightmare of the drug issues. There will be that honeymoon period but what happens after that? Thats why short term may be the best choice. Me, I'd probably let him stay. He's your kid, you love him and you want to help. This is a hard decision for you but in the end your the only one that can make it. Lea [/QUOTE]
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