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<blockquote data-quote="Martie" data-source="post: 8289" data-attributes="member: 284"><p>HMHH,</p><p></p><p>There have been MANY discussions over the years of martial arts and CD kids. I do not know if any are in the general archives because many threads have been lost through various board upgrades.</p><p></p><p>Here are the major discussion points with the most common answers:</p><p></p><p>1. Is it OK to "arm" an ODD child with a martial art? </p><p>Ans: Yes because a good master will make it clear that the technique is not to be misused. If the difficult child doesn't get the message, THEN quit the martial art--most get the message, however. It also helps to choose a non-contact dojon, at least initially.</p><p></p><p>2. Why will my difficult child listen to the master but no one else?</p><p>Ans: Who knows? but it is reported over and over. The cynics say it is because the difficult child is scared sh**less of the master but I know that isn't true--and no reputable marital artist would ever hit a child. More likely, I think, it is peer pressure, everyone conforms and bows, the difficult child conforms and bows. After all, it only goes on for 60 to 90 minutes at a time.</p><p></p><p>3. Why does my difficult child's behavior in martial arts not carry over to school?</p><p>Ans: School is not like the Dojon, so the difficult child behaves as expected for the environment.</p><p></p><p>4. Why does difficult child repond to this form of discipline but no other?</p><p>Ans: Who knows but personally I think the answer is similar to #2 above.</p><p></p><p>5. Will martial arts improve my difficult child's motor skills?</p><p>Ans: probably</p><p></p><p>6. Will martial arts improve my difficult child's motor planning skills?</p><p>Ans: very likely</p><p></p><p>7. Will martial arts improve my difficult child's EF skills?</p><p>Ans: It seems to help many kids</p><p></p><p>8. Will martial arts help my child fend off bullies?</p><p>Ans: Only indirectly bec. martial arts do not teach kids to fight; through increased physical self-confidence, however, bullies may look for an easier mark.</p><p></p><p>9. Will martial arts increase my child's self esteem?</p><p>Ans: If the master is a positive force, then yes.</p><p></p><p>My easy child is a second degree black belt in TKD and ex-difficult child entered residential as a red belt with a black stripe. He never finished and regrets it. It is the ONE thing my children did together and they are as different as any two kids can be. It helped each in different ways: easy child learned tolerance and how to teach skills to others (a BB responsibility); ex-difficult child developed confidence and became somewhat less anxious. Neither of my kids have EF problems, motor problems or planning problems but MANY kids in the dojon did and I watched many improve over the years. The dojon was too far away for me to drop off and pick up so I sat there 3 times a week for YEARS watching all these kids. I know of several boys who were in heavy duty BD classes who managed well in TKD. Also the master was very positive: there was one kid who was particularly inept and the master used to say "use your 'other' left foot for that one," and the kid would switch feet.</p><p></p><p>I can't really remember many nay-sayers on these discussions, but there were a few people who said it made no difference for their child, as one would expect. Most people had positive experiences.</p><p></p><p>P.S.</p><p></p><p>In case you think I have lost my mind here, ex-difficult child only broke boards with his feet, never his hands. Also, it was a non-contact dojon. easy child broke boards with her hands but never injured herself badly (just brusies--which were well worth it for the BB tests.)</p><p></p><p>Martie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Martie, post: 8289, member: 284"] HMHH, There have been MANY discussions over the years of martial arts and CD kids. I do not know if any are in the general archives because many threads have been lost through various board upgrades. Here are the major discussion points with the most common answers: 1. Is it OK to "arm" an ODD child with a martial art? Ans: Yes because a good master will make it clear that the technique is not to be misused. If the difficult child doesn't get the message, THEN quit the martial art--most get the message, however. It also helps to choose a non-contact dojon, at least initially. 2. Why will my difficult child listen to the master but no one else? Ans: Who knows? but it is reported over and over. The cynics say it is because the difficult child is scared sh**less of the master but I know that isn't true--and no reputable marital artist would ever hit a child. More likely, I think, it is peer pressure, everyone conforms and bows, the difficult child conforms and bows. After all, it only goes on for 60 to 90 minutes at a time. 3. Why does my difficult child's behavior in martial arts not carry over to school? Ans: School is not like the Dojon, so the difficult child behaves as expected for the environment. 4. Why does difficult child repond to this form of discipline but no other? Ans: Who knows but personally I think the answer is similar to #2 above. 5. Will martial arts improve my difficult child's motor skills? Ans: probably 6. Will martial arts improve my difficult child's motor planning skills? Ans: very likely 7. Will martial arts improve my difficult child's EF skills? Ans: It seems to help many kids 8. Will martial arts help my child fend off bullies? Ans: Only indirectly bec. martial arts do not teach kids to fight; through increased physical self-confidence, however, bullies may look for an easier mark. 9. Will martial arts increase my child's self esteem? Ans: If the master is a positive force, then yes. My easy child is a second degree black belt in TKD and ex-difficult child entered residential as a red belt with a black stripe. He never finished and regrets it. It is the ONE thing my children did together and they are as different as any two kids can be. It helped each in different ways: easy child learned tolerance and how to teach skills to others (a BB responsibility); ex-difficult child developed confidence and became somewhat less anxious. Neither of my kids have EF problems, motor problems or planning problems but MANY kids in the dojon did and I watched many improve over the years. The dojon was too far away for me to drop off and pick up so I sat there 3 times a week for YEARS watching all these kids. I know of several boys who were in heavy duty BD classes who managed well in TKD. Also the master was very positive: there was one kid who was particularly inept and the master used to say "use your 'other' left foot for that one," and the kid would switch feet. I can't really remember many nay-sayers on these discussions, but there were a few people who said it made no difference for their child, as one would expect. Most people had positive experiences. P.S. In case you think I have lost my mind here, ex-difficult child only broke boards with his feet, never his hands. Also, it was a non-contact dojon. easy child broke boards with her hands but never injured herself badly (just brusies--which were well worth it for the BB tests.) Martie [/QUOTE]
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