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<blockquote data-quote="mightymouse" data-source="post: 16623" data-attributes="member: 3437"><p>Thanks for your replies. It helps already to know I have support. As to your questions, here are my answers:</p><p></p><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SRL</div><div class="ubbcode-body"></p><p>Any chance that your kiddo has any speech delays or displays speech that is somehow different than other kids? </p><p><span style="color: #6600CC">Actually, just the opposite. He spoke early as did my daughter. He spoke in complete sentences before age 2, not perfect speech, but strangers could understand him and every time we left the house someone would comment on how well he talked.</span></p><p>How would you answer these questions about these play behaviors?</p><p>Does/did the child </p><p>a. Favor objects for play that arent typically used as toys by their peers (such as wheels, sticks, magnet letters, etc.)?</p><p><span style="color: #6600CC">No. He will play with just about anything he can get his hands on, but definitely does not favor non-toy objects.</span></p><p>b. Seem fascinated or obsessed by objects/topics that arent typical for kids of their age (such as numbers, the alphabet, words, math, geography, mechanical things such as air conditioners or vacuum cleaners, things with motors, etc)?</p><p><span style="color: #6600CC">Not particularly. He is very interested in letters and is getting the concept of word formation. This started when he got the LeapFrog frige magnets for his 3rd birthday and then the LeapFrog Word Whammer for Christmas. He is not obsessed with it though. He will play alone with them for about 15 minutes at a time or longer if I am playing with him. He sees words everywhere and asks about them and comes up with a couple of words a day and asks me how to spell them. </span></p><p>c. Play differently with toys or household objects (such as spin them, line them up in straight lines, set them up in formations, etc.)?</p><p><span style="color: #6600CC">Some. He will line up his cars from end to end or side to side. Sometimes this is for a reason (he takes a monster truck to jump them :smile: ) or sometimes not. At Christmas time, we told him to put his gifts in a pile over by the fireplace after he opened them. He put them in a line heading out into the middle of the living room floor and was not open to doing anything else with them. When we were finally able to convince him that the line was too long, he started a second one rather than move them into a pile. Typical. It has to be his idea. Also, last week I gave him M&M's a couple of times, and he either lined them up or arranged them in a circle and then counted them.</span></p><p>d. Exhibit weak or unusual pretend play skills (such as acts out memorized scenes from books/films/TV/DVD instead of creating situations and dialogue, moves toy trains around but not pretend to be the engineer/go places/pick up passengers, arranges pretend people or action figures but not create imaginary situations with them or have them interact with each other, etc.)?</p><p><span style="color: #6600CC">Doesn't act out but does memorize short bits of dialogue from TV or movies. He plays with a doll house (hey, it was his sister's and he loves it :smirk: ) and acts out situations with it. He loves to draw and when he's done with a picture he will tell you what it is. Unless it is a stick figure, I don't think he plans on what he draws but always comes up with a label for the finished product that it actually looks like. A few days ago I asked him to draw a person. He drew a stick figure and then drew some vertical lines over her face. I asked him why he drew the lines and he said it was her hair. I asked him why it was in her face and he said because she just got out of the shower. :smile: I don't think immagination is a problem and needless to say, that drawing is now dated, titled, and on the refrigerator. Oh, and he has been making pictures out of clouds since he could talk, and I can always see the same object in the same cloud he is talking about.</span></p><p>e. Display behaviors and/or routines that seem unusual or quirky?</p><p><span style="color: #6600CC">Other than the meltdowns, no.</span></p><p>Take preventative steps to avoid meltdowns.</p><p><span style="color: #6600CC">One of the things that I know helps prevent meltdowns is avoiding hunger and being tired but this is so hard to do. He thinks snacks should be a full meal and has a meltdown when he is told he can't have more. He acts as if naptime and bedtime are a life sentence in prison. If he takes a nap, no matter how short, he is up all hour of the night and if he doesn't he becomes a bear in the afternoon. I just don't know what kind of daily schedule to have him on.</span></p><p>If eating together inevitably leads to the bite game and a 30 minute tantrum then feed him at a different time or place.</p><p><span style="color: #6600CC">About the only thing I could do is eat when he's not around and although that might be great for my figure because I would rarely eat, it's just not practical.</span></p><p>If getting him into a coat to run an errand is a sure fire battle then throw on a sweat shirt instead and dash into the store.</p><p><span style="color: #6600CC">Coats are not a problem because he does not like the cold. But clothing in general, what to wear and when to get dressed have been known to cause meltdowns. It's a control issue for him. I do choose my battles, though. I bought him two blanket sleepers and he loved them so much he wore them all day and night for two days. Then he decided he didn't like them and refuses to wear them anymore. I thought about giving them away, but sure as I do he will decide he likes them again and ask to wear them and when I tell him we do not have them anymore he will have an excuse to have a meltdown for several days, weeks, or months to come at bedtime.</span></p><p>See the thread at the top of this board about adapting The Explosive Child for younger kids for more help on this.</p><p><span style="color: #6600CC"> After seeing this suggestion in several threads, I am going to look for it this weekend. I hope it is an ADD friendly book!</span> </div></div></p><p>Someone else asked about my son's interaction with other people. He interacts well with adults unless he is mad and then he either just ignores them or screams at them, depending on how mad. He plays really well with other children, I think better than most. Another question was about eye contact. He makes good eye contact and it isn't a problem. When he is throwing a fit, I wish it wasn't so good because it looks like he is about to spit fire from his eyes. And yes, as my signature shows, there are mood disorders in the family history, mainly depression on my side of the family. His dad treats us as "if I ignore it, it will go away" (his words, great guy :mad: ) so we don't talk much. I do know he talked about his own anger issues in the past, although I never saw it, and he actually checked himself into a hospital for it at one point. He also has a nephew who is the same age as my son who has some defiance issues of his own that have gotten him kicked out of daycare. I am thinking about asking him or his mom more about his childhood but am struggling with asking in a way that doesn't seem accusitory so that I will get an honest answer.</p><p></p><p>My appointment for him next week is with a phychologist who seems to do very thorough evaluations on children. Is this the right approach? What exactly is a multidisciplinary evaluation? Thanks so much for the support for getting him evaluated. Because of my own disability situation, I am dreading people telling me it is "just a phase" when I know it is not. I really like my pediatrician dr, though, and I think he will be supportive as he has been in the past so I need to quit worrying about it and plow forward, full steam ahead!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mightymouse, post: 16623, member: 3437"] Thanks for your replies. It helps already to know I have support. As to your questions, here are my answers: <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Originally Posted By: SRL</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> Any chance that your kiddo has any speech delays or displays speech that is somehow different than other kids? <span style="color: #6600CC">Actually, just the opposite. He spoke early as did my daughter. He spoke in complete sentences before age 2, not perfect speech, but strangers could understand him and every time we left the house someone would comment on how well he talked.</span> How would you answer these questions about these play behaviors? Does/did the child a. Favor objects for play that arent typically used as toys by their peers (such as wheels, sticks, magnet letters, etc.)? <span style="color: #6600CC">No. He will play with just about anything he can get his hands on, but definitely does not favor non-toy objects.</span> b. Seem fascinated or obsessed by objects/topics that arent typical for kids of their age (such as numbers, the alphabet, words, math, geography, mechanical things such as air conditioners or vacuum cleaners, things with motors, etc)? <span style="color: #6600CC">Not particularly. He is very interested in letters and is getting the concept of word formation. This started when he got the LeapFrog frige magnets for his 3rd birthday and then the LeapFrog Word Whammer for Christmas. He is not obsessed with it though. He will play alone with them for about 15 minutes at a time or longer if I am playing with him. He sees words everywhere and asks about them and comes up with a couple of words a day and asks me how to spell them. </span> c. Play differently with toys or household objects (such as spin them, line them up in straight lines, set them up in formations, etc.)? <span style="color: #6600CC">Some. He will line up his cars from end to end or side to side. Sometimes this is for a reason (he takes a monster truck to jump them [img]:smile:[/img] ) or sometimes not. At Christmas time, we told him to put his gifts in a pile over by the fireplace after he opened them. He put them in a line heading out into the middle of the living room floor and was not open to doing anything else with them. When we were finally able to convince him that the line was too long, he started a second one rather than move them into a pile. Typical. It has to be his idea. Also, last week I gave him M&M's a couple of times, and he either lined them up or arranged them in a circle and then counted them.</span> d. Exhibit weak or unusual pretend play skills (such as acts out memorized scenes from books/films/TV/DVD instead of creating situations and dialogue, moves toy trains around but not pretend to be the engineer/go places/pick up passengers, arranges pretend people or action figures but not create imaginary situations with them or have them interact with each other, etc.)? <span style="color: #6600CC">Doesn't act out but does memorize short bits of dialogue from TV or movies. He plays with a doll house (hey, it was his sister's and he loves it [img]:smirk:[/img] ) and acts out situations with it. He loves to draw and when he's done with a picture he will tell you what it is. Unless it is a stick figure, I don't think he plans on what he draws but always comes up with a label for the finished product that it actually looks like. A few days ago I asked him to draw a person. He drew a stick figure and then drew some vertical lines over her face. I asked him why he drew the lines and he said it was her hair. I asked him why it was in her face and he said because she just got out of the shower. [img]:smile:[/img] I don't think immagination is a problem and needless to say, that drawing is now dated, titled, and on the refrigerator. Oh, and he has been making pictures out of clouds since he could talk, and I can always see the same object in the same cloud he is talking about.</span> e. Display behaviors and/or routines that seem unusual or quirky? <span style="color: #6600CC">Other than the meltdowns, no.</span> Take preventative steps to avoid meltdowns. <span style="color: #6600CC">One of the things that I know helps prevent meltdowns is avoiding hunger and being tired but this is so hard to do. He thinks snacks should be a full meal and has a meltdown when he is told he can't have more. He acts as if naptime and bedtime are a life sentence in prison. If he takes a nap, no matter how short, he is up all hour of the night and if he doesn't he becomes a bear in the afternoon. I just don't know what kind of daily schedule to have him on.</span> If eating together inevitably leads to the bite game and a 30 minute tantrum then feed him at a different time or place. <span style="color: #6600CC">About the only thing I could do is eat when he's not around and although that might be great for my figure because I would rarely eat, it's just not practical.</span> If getting him into a coat to run an errand is a sure fire battle then throw on a sweat shirt instead and dash into the store. <span style="color: #6600CC">Coats are not a problem because he does not like the cold. But clothing in general, what to wear and when to get dressed have been known to cause meltdowns. It's a control issue for him. I do choose my battles, though. I bought him two blanket sleepers and he loved them so much he wore them all day and night for two days. Then he decided he didn't like them and refuses to wear them anymore. I thought about giving them away, but sure as I do he will decide he likes them again and ask to wear them and when I tell him we do not have them anymore he will have an excuse to have a meltdown for several days, weeks, or months to come at bedtime.</span> See the thread at the top of this board about adapting The Explosive Child for younger kids for more help on this. <span style="color: #6600CC"> After seeing this suggestion in several threads, I am going to look for it this weekend. I hope it is an ADD friendly book!</span> </div></div> Someone else asked about my son's interaction with other people. He interacts well with adults unless he is mad and then he either just ignores them or screams at them, depending on how mad. He plays really well with other children, I think better than most. Another question was about eye contact. He makes good eye contact and it isn't a problem. When he is throwing a fit, I wish it wasn't so good because it looks like he is about to spit fire from his eyes. And yes, as my signature shows, there are mood disorders in the family history, mainly depression on my side of the family. His dad treats us as "if I ignore it, it will go away" (his words, great guy [img]:mad:[/img] ) so we don't talk much. I do know he talked about his own anger issues in the past, although I never saw it, and he actually checked himself into a hospital for it at one point. He also has a nephew who is the same age as my son who has some defiance issues of his own that have gotten him kicked out of daycare. I am thinking about asking him or his mom more about his childhood but am struggling with asking in a way that doesn't seem accusitory so that I will get an honest answer. My appointment for him next week is with a phychologist who seems to do very thorough evaluations on children. Is this the right approach? What exactly is a multidisciplinary evaluation? Thanks so much for the support for getting him evaluated. Because of my own disability situation, I am dreading people telling me it is "just a phase" when I know it is not. I really like my pediatrician dr, though, and I think he will be supportive as he has been in the past so I need to quit worrying about it and plow forward, full steam ahead! [/QUOTE]
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