I just wanted to thank everyone who gave me advice. I left my husband two weeks ago and left that state a week ago, so we are safe. Funny thing is, the boys werent upset about leaving their dad. Since we left the boys arent fighting as much or annoying each other like they had been. They are sleeping better and really havent had major adjustment issues. My youngest slept in his own bed last night and never came into my bed. That was amazing. He has serious anxiety issues. I bought The Explossive Child today and will really try using the ideas I read about. I am sure we are off to a great start, but I know there will be those bumps in the road to keep life interesting. Thank you all Without the support, I dont know if I would have the emotional strength I needed to get through the last two weeks.