Thank you! Yes, we are devistated! :(

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Andy, Mar 28, 2011.

  1. Andy

    Andy Active Member

    Thank you so much! Yes, this has been very hard for us. It was our sweet goldendoodle. She was 10 months old. She went to our property in the country for the day and bolted after a car on a nearby country road.

    difficult child saw everything. He went to try to help her and as he stroked her head, she bit him. She died within minutes.

    The property is about an hour away. I told husband that I was on my way. He answered, "difficult child can ride home with me" "Are you coming home now?" "No, I still have work to do." "Then I am coming out!"

    I am glad I did. I think I needed to do so for myself as well as bring difficult child home. I also was able to help husband move a huge round hay bale to dig a grave. difficult child wanted to bury her on our property in town but I don't think we can. Besides, we most likely will not always have this home but the country property will be his and Diva's someday and most likely will stay in the family for generations to come.

    difficult child is doing very well under the circumstances. He dug most of the grave. husband asked if he wanted to put sweet puppy in the grave and after I told him he didn't have to if he didn't want to he decided not to. difficult child stated how comfortable sweet puppy looked.

    I keep forgetting that the children's walk-in is open Sundays. difficult child showed me the palm of his hand - it was over 1 1/2 hours since it happened and he had not cleaned it. Later that night it looked black around the area but was getting better late last night and today. difficult child said the black was just dirt - I should have looked closer.

    We kept our plans to visit Diva today to help her with a class project. I then came home this afternoon and a facebook connection suggested that I take difficult child into have the bite looked at. She said it should be cleaned throughly. So, I took him to the walk-in this afternoon. It is a little red and swollen. The doctor put difficult child on a strong antibiotic and said to keep an eye on it - if it gets worse to bring him back. difficult child is current with his tentus shot (last year) and sweet puppy was current with hers. I think he will be o.k. but feel much better with the antibiotics on board just in case.

    We are stunned and devistated. I am glad difficult child didn't have to go to school today. He was a model for his sister's photography assignment and you could tell he didn't have joy within. He was also weepy during brunch.

    We have a therapist appointment on April 8th so I called and left a note for therapist so he can be prepared with some resources. Yesterday difficult child set up a residency on Rainbows Bridge (I will send in a check this week once we get the posting of picture figured out). He also told some friends on his X-box that although he will never forget her he knows he will not hurt this bad forever. He is trying so hard to get the scene of the accident out of his mind by remembering the good times. We are pulling together pictures of her to help with that. He set up a memorial on a bookshelf in the livingroom with a shadow box of a picture of him and her with her collar and tags in the box, a favorite toy on display as well as her food dish. We are going to find a small flat "dish" to put a favorite treat on display. ​
  2. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Aww Breaks my heart. Poor kid.

    My brother went through that with his much much loved beagle pup. Hard enough to deal with the death itself, much harder if you saw it happen to get it out of your head. :sad:
  3. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Oh, that is so sad and tragic.
    difficult child sounds sweet and caring. He will get through this, especially since he is taking part in everything and not withdrawing.
    Hugs to you all.
  4. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    Oh gosh...I'm so sorry! How heartbreatking!
  5. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Andy, you are handling this well. We have lost many dogs over the years with the boys and we always tried to do things to help them as best we could. Several of the dogs are buried here on our land too.
  6. elizabrary

    elizabrary Member

    I'm so sorry. It is so hard to lose a furry family member. It really sounds like your family has pulled together to support each other.
  7. ML

    ML Guest

    Just adding my condolences. I truly am sorry.
  8. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    I don't come to this forum that often, so this is the first I've heard about it. How sad :<<<Your family is in my prayers.
  9. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Heartbreaking story. It's so hard to lose a pet, and one so young. I'm sorry.