forkeeps251
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Just had another one of those moments this morning that confirmed for me that difficult child just isn't like other kids. This time I even got it on video, which just makes me kind of sad.
The kids school has a parade the Friday before Halloween. It isn't for Halloween costumes, it is actually a "hat" parade and educational based. It is really pretty cool... they have kids from the middle school come in with drums and the kids do amazing things with the hats they have designed. I know it is overwhelming for most kindergarteners... the drums, plus walking in line through halls lined with everyone in the school (the walk past the other grades), and all their parents.
I had kind of thought it might be hard for difficult child because I know he doesn't like loud noises, unfamiliar situations, or being the center of attention. I was right. By the time he had gotten to me, he had his hat off and was almost in tears. He saw me and ran to me, latched on, and didn't let go. The rest of his class, and the rest of kindergarten passed, and there were NO other kids having issues with the parade. I ended up putting the hat back on him and walking him through the "parade route" so we could catch back up with his class, him clinging to me the whole time. He wouldn't look at the other kids (other classes) or give them high fives like the other kids were. In fact he accused one little boy of hitting him in the face (which the kid was just trying to give him a high five). We finally caught up with his class, and he sat down to watch the rest of the parade, but he just put his head down and refused to look up.
Before the parade started a piece of his hat fell off (not a very important piece), and from then on, everyting was "ruined" he said. I think he was already upset before the parade even started.
It made me sad for so many reasons... and it made me feel like for most kids, this is fun and a memory they will have of elementary... but not for him, for him it was just another bad experience.
Also, it was a bad end to a bad week... he has been the the principals office twice already, once for hitting students and once for knocking over two chairs when he was angry.
Just a little back groud: we have not had much in the way of formal evaluations, just school observations. We are in the process of going through play therapy to steer us in the right direction.
Also, I have a question... how often is it that a child is having these types of problems when there just isn't anything wrong? Part of my fear is that he will be evaluated and they will say no, he doesn't have ADHD, or Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), or Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) or sensory issues or anything like that... this is just the way he is? He is just a bad kid? I'm not saying I want an excuse for the way he is acting, but I do want to know WHY, if only for the reason that if I know WHY he is acting that way, I can get him some help. What if they just say, "he has aggression issues".
I think more than anything, I am scared for the future.
The kids school has a parade the Friday before Halloween. It isn't for Halloween costumes, it is actually a "hat" parade and educational based. It is really pretty cool... they have kids from the middle school come in with drums and the kids do amazing things with the hats they have designed. I know it is overwhelming for most kindergarteners... the drums, plus walking in line through halls lined with everyone in the school (the walk past the other grades), and all their parents.
I had kind of thought it might be hard for difficult child because I know he doesn't like loud noises, unfamiliar situations, or being the center of attention. I was right. By the time he had gotten to me, he had his hat off and was almost in tears. He saw me and ran to me, latched on, and didn't let go. The rest of his class, and the rest of kindergarten passed, and there were NO other kids having issues with the parade. I ended up putting the hat back on him and walking him through the "parade route" so we could catch back up with his class, him clinging to me the whole time. He wouldn't look at the other kids (other classes) or give them high fives like the other kids were. In fact he accused one little boy of hitting him in the face (which the kid was just trying to give him a high five). We finally caught up with his class, and he sat down to watch the rest of the parade, but he just put his head down and refused to look up.
Before the parade started a piece of his hat fell off (not a very important piece), and from then on, everyting was "ruined" he said. I think he was already upset before the parade even started.
It made me sad for so many reasons... and it made me feel like for most kids, this is fun and a memory they will have of elementary... but not for him, for him it was just another bad experience.
Also, it was a bad end to a bad week... he has been the the principals office twice already, once for hitting students and once for knocking over two chairs when he was angry.
Just a little back groud: we have not had much in the way of formal evaluations, just school observations. We are in the process of going through play therapy to steer us in the right direction.
Also, I have a question... how often is it that a child is having these types of problems when there just isn't anything wrong? Part of my fear is that he will be evaluated and they will say no, he doesn't have ADHD, or Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), or Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) or sensory issues or anything like that... this is just the way he is? He is just a bad kid? I'm not saying I want an excuse for the way he is acting, but I do want to know WHY, if only for the reason that if I know WHY he is acting that way, I can get him some help. What if they just say, "he has aggression issues".
I think more than anything, I am scared for the future.