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That "why." Do we ever really know? Why does it matter?
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 673096" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>The "why" matters to me because I am trying to figure out what makes me- me, how to change patterns and grow as a person.</p><p></p><p>I am looking into my FOO from that viewpoint, not to judge,or blame, but to understand myself better. It also helps me to understand my relationships with my siblings, then and now.</p><p>Maybe my <em>"why"</em> is more focused on why am I the way I am? Trying to be kinder to myself.Trying to understand some of my life's decisions, my responses and feelings about myself.</p><p></p><p>I think all of that does tie in to my upbringing and FOO history.</p><p></p><p>You gals already know this, you are the FOO Chronicle professors.</p><p></p><p>Did not your examining and reflecting help you to know yourselves better?</p><p></p><p>We are all imperfect humans. We all make mistakes.</p><p></p><p>The past is the past, and one cannot change it, but can I learn from it? If I stepped back and removed the emotional response, would it be a better way to see things, more clearly?</p><p></p><p>I know I cannot broach the subject with my older sibs, they don't want to talk about it, so if I need to, I can talk with lil sis.</p><p></p><p>Mom is on another path, with her illness, she doesn't need hard questions, just gentle love.</p><p></p><p>If I had a dollar for every time my d cs brought up their past and blamed me for their troubles I would have a pretty nice little savings. </p><p>Huh.</p><p></p><p>I guess it is the great circle of life. </p><p></p><p>The never ending question.</p><p></p><p>WHY.</p><p></p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 673096, member: 19522"] The "why" matters to me because I am trying to figure out what makes me- me, how to change patterns and grow as a person. I am looking into my FOO from that viewpoint, not to judge,or blame, but to understand myself better. It also helps me to understand my relationships with my siblings, then and now. Maybe my [I]"why"[/I] is more focused on why am I the way I am? Trying to be kinder to myself.Trying to understand some of my life's decisions, my responses and feelings about myself. I think all of that does tie in to my upbringing and FOO history. You gals already know this, you are the FOO Chronicle professors. Did not your examining and reflecting help you to know yourselves better? We are all imperfect humans. We all make mistakes. The past is the past, and one cannot change it, but can I learn from it? If I stepped back and removed the emotional response, would it be a better way to see things, more clearly? I know I cannot broach the subject with my older sibs, they don't want to talk about it, so if I need to, I can talk with lil sis. Mom is on another path, with her illness, she doesn't need hard questions, just gentle love. If I had a dollar for every time my d cs brought up their past and blamed me for their troubles I would have a pretty nice little savings. Huh. I guess it is the great circle of life. The never ending question. WHY. leafy [/QUOTE]
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