Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
Family of Origin
That "why." Do we ever really know? Why does it matter?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 673406" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Well, I missed this thread too. I will comment briefly until I catch up.I think it matters not at all the why of others. </p><p></p><p>I think it matters tremendously the why of ourselves. But why is not a question that is either fruitful or production. Asking the whys cannot begin the inquiry. Why will emerge in time. First it is necessary to ask oneself what you want. Right now. In the short term future and longer term. Then ask, how will I get there. What will I do to reach my goal.</p><p></p><p>Why comes up in the process. It emerges. Because invariably when one sets important goals there will be resistance. There will be barriers. There will be feelings. There will be temptations to do nothing.</p><p></p><p>Only then will the real juice of things come up. The why. Why is a dependent variable. It cannot drive the car. </p><p></p><p>That is how I have tried to live.</p><p></p><p>Why my mother was how she was is really not important to me. She was extremely important. But if I focus upon the why in terms of her behavior it gets me nowhere. Either I get to: She cared more for her own welfare than for my own. She got that way most likely because of her early life with her parents.</p><p> </p><p>What good does that do me? I can feel compassion for her early life. I can feel anger for her caring for herself for me, but what does it really get me. Nowhere. Only back to where I started with my mother: I love her.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 673406, member: 18958"] Well, I missed this thread too. I will comment briefly until I catch up.I think it matters not at all the why of others. I think it matters tremendously the why of ourselves. But why is not a question that is either fruitful or production. Asking the whys cannot begin the inquiry. Why will emerge in time. First it is necessary to ask oneself what you want. Right now. In the short term future and longer term. Then ask, how will I get there. What will I do to reach my goal. Why comes up in the process. It emerges. Because invariably when one sets important goals there will be resistance. There will be barriers. There will be feelings. There will be temptations to do nothing. Only then will the real juice of things come up. The why. Why is a dependent variable. It cannot drive the car. That is how I have tried to live. Why my mother was how she was is really not important to me. She was extremely important. But if I focus upon the why in terms of her behavior it gets me nowhere. Either I get to: She cared more for her own welfare than for my own. She got that way most likely because of her early life with her parents. What good does that do me? I can feel compassion for her early life. I can feel anger for her caring for herself for me, but what does it really get me. Nowhere. Only back to where I started with my mother: I love her. COPA [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
Family of Origin
That "why." Do we ever really know? Why does it matter?
Top