Do you think that it would be terrible to let the family know in advance that we won't be celebrating Christmas? I'm considering making a general announcement at Thankgiving dinner (L's dad and wife and her family will be there) that we are not participating in any gift giving at Christmas. If the kids need something sometime they should ask us, but I hate Christmas and I'd rather not participate in it. I'd rather give because I want to give. Financial considerations don't allow for much this year, either. I wouldn't mind doing something for people who are going without this year. I don't mind the eating part of Christmas. YUM! But I hate the gift giving and the pretenses. But I know if I don't get in front of it then, I will have to either do another Christmas that I hate trying to live up to someone else's expectations, or try to pull it off at a later date when L will take full advantage of acting out because she won't be trying to protect her image in front of her step mom's family.