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<blockquote data-quote="Sam3" data-source="post: 720316" data-attributes="member: 19290"><p>Copa. </p><p></p><p>I'm touched that you did "background." You are right -- all kids are different and you have aptly described mine. But like you, there has been a lingering doubt about his competence, which is why I did background too when I was uneasy about whether he could even have a wake up call while homeless. </p><p></p><p>I think many things can affect the ability to be woke: traumas, organic disabilities, addictions, and even in my sons case Cluster B defenses and no real life experience because of them.</p><p></p><p>A mothers instict is often the only triage they have. I wish it wasn't -- it seems easier to pick an approach and not look back.</p><p></p><p>I think we've all gone through the cycle of being whipped, seeking support and input, picking answers that speak to our own emotional turmoil, getting some relief and then have a nagging sensation of guilt. And the ones who work hard, like the parents here, look at the whole thing fresh again when they are more distant from their own pain, to check our instincts about what will really serve our kids. </p><p></p><p>and each iteration can give us more certainty. I am steadier now than In 2015 because of the iterations. I feel more reliable even though then I had more hope. </p><p></p><p>Copa, you are a loving person always doing your best to adapt and serve, and that's the limit of what can be given or received. I think we need to get comfortable putting a period there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sam3, post: 720316, member: 19290"] Copa. I'm touched that you did "background." You are right -- all kids are different and you have aptly described mine. But like you, there has been a lingering doubt about his competence, which is why I did background too when I was uneasy about whether he could even have a wake up call while homeless. I think many things can affect the ability to be woke: traumas, organic disabilities, addictions, and even in my sons case Cluster B defenses and no real life experience because of them. A mothers instict is often the only triage they have. I wish it wasn't -- it seems easier to pick an approach and not look back. I think we've all gone through the cycle of being whipped, seeking support and input, picking answers that speak to our own emotional turmoil, getting some relief and then have a nagging sensation of guilt. And the ones who work hard, like the parents here, look at the whole thing fresh again when they are more distant from their own pain, to check our instincts about what will really serve our kids. and each iteration can give us more certainty. I am steadier now than In 2015 because of the iterations. I feel more reliable even though then I had more hope. Copa, you are a loving person always doing your best to adapt and serve, and that's the limit of what can be given or received. I think we need to get comfortable putting a period there. [/QUOTE]
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