please don't misunderstand me, i love my daughter but boy!! where do i start. she is 25 and has two beautiful daughters (my granddaughters). she has had alot of heart ache and tragedy over last few years, and we have helped her through unconditionally, from an extremely prem baby of just 2lb due to pre-eclampsia, to complications with second child but mostly fine now. from a failed marriage and divorce (abusive husband) to sleeping with three of her brothers (my son) best friends. i know that life changes people, and she has changed beyond recognition. she has settled with the third best freind of my sons. my granddaughters mean the world to me but they are such intricate creatures. They are clearly not normal little girls not only because one has diabetes and the other is gluten and lactose intolerant, but their manner and nervousness of the world and normal influences. now we come to present day. over this last two months she has become angry bitter and selfish. we have bent over backwards to help her and the girls. always there for them all. i know she needs help and we have done that in abundance. just recently my husband and myself have started up a few interests of our own, not connected to our family. i do not feel this is unacceptable. so on the odd occasion we have not been able to be there for our daughter the way she wants us to and this has bought out the devil in her. now we are selfish and disinterested in her and the girls welfare. according to her this is. we felt because she has grown stronger with our support and now she has a boyfriend that its time to take a tiny step back. NO, this has back fired on us and now she uses the girls (granddaughters) as weapons. she virtually stopped us from seeing them by stating they were ill. we were being punished for weeks. i am sorry to say this but she has shocked our whole family by her actions. we adore those girls and them us. i had to threaten her to involve a outside third party before she agreed to reinstate our visits. this is not normal behaviour. she refused to talk to us, she said she was angry and needed time to get over our lack of commitment. i then thought "hang on a minute" what is this all about. now things are not good between us and her butat least i won the battle of seeing the girls. can anyone shed some light on our failures please or even hers.