easy child and her roommate and friend from school, S, advertised for a 3rd roommate (last yr's friend flunked out). They rec'd an email from the new roommate's mom, who thanked them for offering to room with-her daughter. They couldn't figure out what was going on because that was the first they'd heard of it. And why was the mom communicating instead of the daughter? School paired them up because of their majors. The new woman, C, is majoring in recreational therapy. easy child is majoring in art therapy (art and psychology) and S is majoring in social work and international politics. Then they spoke over the phone, and C had to ask for permission from her mom to meet for lunch. That made easy child and S even more suspicious. S and C met last wk. S refused to describe C except to say, "You have to meet her for yourself." C is 21. Turns out C doesn't drive. The mom said C had an Learning Disability (LD)... But she'd outgrown it.(Huh?) She had gone to a community college and had a difficult time but was doing better. S and easy child were very upset about this "helicopter mom." Turns out that because easy child got a ticket last wk and hasn't had her state inspection (due in May) I drove her to Richmond in my car and found an awesome Italian wine and cheese bar. We all met there. C is a bona fide Aspie. OMG. We never brought up the subject. I suggested the girls talk alone and I would shop. C's parents agreed. easy child and C went into a clothing shop and C said she couldn't stand scratchy tags on clothes. At that point, easy child couldn't stand it any more and said, "Do you have Asperger's?" C said, "Yes," and looked at the floor like she was embarrassed. "We don't talk about it." easy child said, "It's a part of who you are. You should embrace it." They exited the clothing store and could have had an in-depth conversation, but they literally bumped into me in the middle of the street, and easy child was late for work so we had to go. I'm sure they will have plenty of opportunities to discuss it at school this yr! easy child said C wanted to shop at a toy store, not just to browse, but seriously shop. I said, "Serious shopping, like the way you look for clothes." "Yeah!" LOL! "And then she wanted to go into a fantasy warrior store that had games and figurines." "She collects them, right?" "Right." easy child was practically banging her head on the car dash on the way home. I told her it was good field training. "What if she has rages? What if she can't stand the stress? What about all the people coming and going in the dorm? I can't hold her hand like difficult child and keep the peace. My goal is to get straight A's this semester. I have to study!" I told easy child that C was obviously a kind and sweet person with anxiety issues (at lunch they told us that C doesn't drive because it scares her) but I didn't think she'd be mean like difficult child. "What if people make fun of her? Do I invite her to everything? She won't mesh with-my friends." Detach, detach, detach. Come up with-a one-liner like, "She's my roommate. She's very sweet," and change the subject. Don't allow people to make fun. Period. You don't have to go into a long, scientific explanation, but you don't allow them to get their digs in, either. All the way home, easy child repeated, OMG, OMG, OMG.