flutterby
Fly away!
First of all, school's out!!!! :yippee: 
For this last quarter, the PCA worked with difficult child and it went sooooo much better. difficult child fights with me every step of the way, but she can do things with the PCA that she would fall to pieces over with me. So far, she has all B's and one A's and they're still going up. Final grades haven't been posted yet.
And difficult child plans on returning to regular school for high school in the fall. And all I can think is, Thank God. This 24/7 stuff....it's just beyond draining.
The PCA has made plans to do things with difficult child all summer. Yesterday they played tennis and difficult child came home giggling. Neither one of them play tennis and I guess it would have been interesting to watch.
difficult child really likes her therapist and I think a lot of good will come of it.
The bad....
difficult child 2 is still lying and manipulating and doing pretty much whatever he wants. He's almost 17. I have to wonder if it's just a lost cause at this point. This is ingrained in his personality. And I have no control over how it is handled. It really bothered me yesterday when his mom told me that he lies to *everyone* *all the time*. I don't know if it was an excuse or how it was meant, but it really bothered me. Because it certainly doesn't give him a free pass with me. I can't be supportive of someone who manipulates and uses people. I've given him 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th chances, but when his behavior is good, i.e., he's not going off at everyone, then "he's doing so much better". That doesn't cut it in my book. He hasn't changed, nor is he trying. He just says what everyone wants to hear.
I had to tell Ashlee to not be taken in by him. He told her that a friend of his purposely tried to OD. This is a friend he met through AA and his mom thinks it was a lie so that difficult child 2 could go over there because there are no parents. I think it was a lie so he Ashlee would give him a ride. He uses people. And I'm done being used.
The in-between...
easy child got signed up for the graduate recovery program. The school cut down how many hours he has to do, but that's because they want him done by June 30 because it effects their graduation rate. I'm really not concerned about their graduation rate and even with the reduced hours, it would be 50+ hours a week to be done by June 30.
We left from getting him signed off and easy child went off on me for talking for him and making decisions for him. I told him not to talk to me. For one, it wasn't true. For two, I'm the mom. If I want to make decisions for him, then I will. Later he said that he was just mad and he takes it out on me. I told him I will not be his punching bag anymore.
Then I told him that he took it out on me and Ashlee, but went and picked up D and took him to Chipotle. D is a mooch that has taken complete advantage of easy child - although, easy child lets him - and D sat in my house 2 weeks ago tearing easy child down to me. It made me sick with everything that we have done for D and how he has taken advantage of easy child. I told easy child this last night and told him that he really needs to think about who he attacks and who he buddies up with. I told him that after that little conversation with D that I don't even want him in my house again. D had to feel like he's better than easy child. He's certainly not supportive of anything easy child does.
So, that's it in a nutshell. I haven't been around much because I'm not feeling well, but I'll be on here and there.
For this last quarter, the PCA worked with difficult child and it went sooooo much better. difficult child fights with me every step of the way, but she can do things with the PCA that she would fall to pieces over with me. So far, she has all B's and one A's and they're still going up. Final grades haven't been posted yet.
And difficult child plans on returning to regular school for high school in the fall. And all I can think is, Thank God. This 24/7 stuff....it's just beyond draining.
The PCA has made plans to do things with difficult child all summer. Yesterday they played tennis and difficult child came home giggling. Neither one of them play tennis and I guess it would have been interesting to watch.
difficult child really likes her therapist and I think a lot of good will come of it.
The bad....
difficult child 2 is still lying and manipulating and doing pretty much whatever he wants. He's almost 17. I have to wonder if it's just a lost cause at this point. This is ingrained in his personality. And I have no control over how it is handled. It really bothered me yesterday when his mom told me that he lies to *everyone* *all the time*. I don't know if it was an excuse or how it was meant, but it really bothered me. Because it certainly doesn't give him a free pass with me. I can't be supportive of someone who manipulates and uses people. I've given him 2nd, 3rd, 4th and 5th chances, but when his behavior is good, i.e., he's not going off at everyone, then "he's doing so much better". That doesn't cut it in my book. He hasn't changed, nor is he trying. He just says what everyone wants to hear.
I had to tell Ashlee to not be taken in by him. He told her that a friend of his purposely tried to OD. This is a friend he met through AA and his mom thinks it was a lie so that difficult child 2 could go over there because there are no parents. I think it was a lie so he Ashlee would give him a ride. He uses people. And I'm done being used.
The in-between...
easy child got signed up for the graduate recovery program. The school cut down how many hours he has to do, but that's because they want him done by June 30 because it effects their graduation rate. I'm really not concerned about their graduation rate and even with the reduced hours, it would be 50+ hours a week to be done by June 30.
We left from getting him signed off and easy child went off on me for talking for him and making decisions for him. I told him not to talk to me. For one, it wasn't true. For two, I'm the mom. If I want to make decisions for him, then I will. Later he said that he was just mad and he takes it out on me. I told him I will not be his punching bag anymore.
Then I told him that he took it out on me and Ashlee, but went and picked up D and took him to Chipotle. D is a mooch that has taken complete advantage of easy child - although, easy child lets him - and D sat in my house 2 weeks ago tearing easy child down to me. It made me sick with everything that we have done for D and how he has taken advantage of easy child. I told easy child this last night and told him that he really needs to think about who he attacks and who he buddies up with. I told him that after that little conversation with D that I don't even want him in my house again. D had to feel like he's better than easy child. He's certainly not supportive of anything easy child does.
So, that's it in a nutshell. I haven't been around much because I'm not feeling well, but I'll be on here and there.
