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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 66969" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Good on you for getting a break! </p><p></p><p>I do agree with you about socialising and home schooling - because difficult child 3 is autistic, the SD fought really hard to stop us pulling him out, ALWAYS using the socialisation argument. I pointed out that I no longer felt that ANY of the social interaction at school was positive in any way - it was all negative and having a very bad effect on his behaviour. I would meticulously teach difficult child 3 to not hit other kids, including to not hit back. But he would be goaded, and goaded, so badly, including other kids hitting him, kicking him, tripping him up, calling him names and when HE hit the other kid - it was always difficult child 3 who was in trouble, not the other kids. We would get others telling us a different version of events but the teachers always chose the easy way out - blame the weird kid. difficult child 3's scripture teacher was a mine of information about the ongoing bullying, often happening right under the class teacher's nose - but it was difficult child 3 who got into trouble even when the scripture teacher said, "But I just saw L stick a pair of compass points into difficult child 3's back..."</p><p></p><p>So she told me instead.</p><p></p><p>Now difficult child 3 is older, plus he's learning that life needn't be like that. When he goes in to his correspondence school for study days they are so quick to defend him it made me realise how much I had been brainwashed by the system too.</p><p></p><p>Back to what I was saying before - I would be insisting on full seat belt harnesses being used in the car while it is moving. For ALL occupants. And if difficult child is getting worse with the violence of his outbursts, I would be worrying about his apparently increased level of frustration. Why? How come? What is triggering this? How can you deal with it more effectively?</p><p></p><p>Get the book ("The Explosive Child") - it should help. There is another book called "The Bipolar Child" which I haven't read (n/a for us) but is very popular also on this site.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 66969, member: 1991"] Good on you for getting a break! I do agree with you about socialising and home schooling - because difficult child 3 is autistic, the SD fought really hard to stop us pulling him out, ALWAYS using the socialisation argument. I pointed out that I no longer felt that ANY of the social interaction at school was positive in any way - it was all negative and having a very bad effect on his behaviour. I would meticulously teach difficult child 3 to not hit other kids, including to not hit back. But he would be goaded, and goaded, so badly, including other kids hitting him, kicking him, tripping him up, calling him names and when HE hit the other kid - it was always difficult child 3 who was in trouble, not the other kids. We would get others telling us a different version of events but the teachers always chose the easy way out - blame the weird kid. difficult child 3's scripture teacher was a mine of information about the ongoing bullying, often happening right under the class teacher's nose - but it was difficult child 3 who got into trouble even when the scripture teacher said, "But I just saw L stick a pair of compass points into difficult child 3's back..." So she told me instead. Now difficult child 3 is older, plus he's learning that life needn't be like that. When he goes in to his correspondence school for study days they are so quick to defend him it made me realise how much I had been brainwashed by the system too. Back to what I was saying before - I would be insisting on full seat belt harnesses being used in the car while it is moving. For ALL occupants. And if difficult child is getting worse with the violence of his outbursts, I would be worrying about his apparently increased level of frustration. Why? How come? What is triggering this? How can you deal with it more effectively? Get the book ("The Explosive Child") - it should help. There is another book called "The Bipolar Child" which I haven't read (n/a for us) but is very popular also on this site. Marg [/QUOTE]
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