husband and I have no parental authority. Every rule has been broken. Every consequence side stepped or bowled over. But... I have a hill I am going to die on! When difficult child goes somewhere without permission, she will get no ride home from us. I can't believe how she is trying her best to get control of this. Despite the fact that we have laid this out as a consequence for going somewhere without permission, she continues to try and get rides!! We have not once given in to this since we set the rule, but she is tenacious. (Her friends don't drive and the long distance friends would never give her a ride-they need their weed money) Tonight she calls at 6:00 and asks me to get her from her friends. I repeated the rule. She informed me she and her friend were in the park and got searched by the police. (Her friend lives right next to a local park). Mmmmm. Can they search without cause? Just what were you 2 doing? She laughed and said, "We got lucky because we have both been clean." Then she asked for a ride again. What the he()? Does she think I buy her garbage? She works tomorrow so I know she'll be home. She has attended the aftercare at her first Residential Treatment Center (RTC) the last two weeks. She told me last night as I took her to the meeting, that she wanted to score points with me, that was why she was going. I told her, "How sad. I had hoped you were doing it for yourself." Her response was," Of course I am." She doesn't know what she is doing. And isn't it sad that the only power I have is to refuse her rides? By gosh, I will pitch my tent there on that hill, stake my territory, and die if need be !! Pitiful..LOL!