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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 738917" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi LBL</p><p></p><p>While I hope and believe he will not relapse, for you it will never go back to the way it was, and I will tell you why I believe that.</p><p></p><p>You now know that E. is in there. All of the sweetness. The kindness. The warmth. The responsiveness to others and the desire to help. The person who aspires and takes responsibility and is motivated to be more.</p><p></p><p>The drugs kidnapped this E and sequestered him. Now you know he still exists. He not only exists, he thrives.</p><p></p><p>This kind of reassurance is what I lack. My son has been on a downward spiral without end. I do not know if the person of 10 or even 8 years still exists, for him to resurrect. Or if the capacity to be a fully functional adult has ever been there. This is what you now have with E. It is the greatest gift and one you so richly earned and deserve. As does your husband.</p><p></p><p>Nothing and nobody can take this recovery away from E. Nor from you and his father. Not even relapse. Because a relapse even if it does occur, need only be a moment. He has shown that.</p><p></p><p>I would be scared about the alcohol and pot, too. But PTSD is really a good way to name this. We are traumatized. E does not have to be. To carry your trauma. He will be living in a world where he will have to deal. Some research seems to support that total abstinence (assumed by the AA disease model to be necessary) is not necessary for everybody to deal with addiction, contrary to the 12 step approach. But I would feel more comfortable with abstinence, too. But do we have a vote?</p><p></p><p>In any event it is what it is. Like you say. This uncertain world without control is our path to live. I am happy for you, for his Dad and most of all, for E. PS. That GIRL. I sure hope he loses her before he finishes the program.</p><p></p><p>Congratulations about the new house, new dog, and new job. You are amazing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 738917, member: 18958"] Hi LBL While I hope and believe he will not relapse, for you it will never go back to the way it was, and I will tell you why I believe that. You now know that E. is in there. All of the sweetness. The kindness. The warmth. The responsiveness to others and the desire to help. The person who aspires and takes responsibility and is motivated to be more. The drugs kidnapped this E and sequestered him. Now you know he still exists. He not only exists, he thrives. This kind of reassurance is what I lack. My son has been on a downward spiral without end. I do not know if the person of 10 or even 8 years still exists, for him to resurrect. Or if the capacity to be a fully functional adult has ever been there. This is what you now have with E. It is the greatest gift and one you so richly earned and deserve. As does your husband. Nothing and nobody can take this recovery away from E. Nor from you and his father. Not even relapse. Because a relapse even if it does occur, need only be a moment. He has shown that. I would be scared about the alcohol and pot, too. But PTSD is really a good way to name this. We are traumatized. E does not have to be. To carry your trauma. He will be living in a world where he will have to deal. Some research seems to support that total abstinence (assumed by the AA disease model to be necessary) is not necessary for everybody to deal with addiction, contrary to the 12 step approach. But I would feel more comfortable with abstinence, too. But do we have a vote? In any event it is what it is. Like you say. This uncertain world without control is our path to live. I am happy for you, for his Dad and most of all, for E. PS. That GIRL. I sure hope he loses her before he finishes the program. Congratulations about the new house, new dog, and new job. You are amazing. [/QUOTE]
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