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The inevitable...arrest warrant has been issued
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 653944" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I know this sounds unorthodox, but I'd just let it go. You don't have to lure her back for her to get arrested. That's not your job. That's on the cops. The more she hides, the more trouble she'll be in, but I wouldn't pay for her to miss her hearing. Whatever will that do for her that will make her a better person? </p><p></p><p>We all do things differently. If it were me, the money, which we did not have anyway to blow, would not be on the table. And tricking my kid into coming home just to be arrested...at her age I'd let her face the consequences of running from the cops. If you are thinking, "But she may straighten out and this will make her look bad" you are right. She is making herself look bad. However, there are programs to help felons get jobs and she is nowhere near straightening out.</p><p></p><p>Of course every decision is 100% up to the parents, but I don't pesonally think we help them when we help them. They tend to do the same things over and over again with the expectation that Daddy and Mommy will fix it. They are more apt, in my opinion only, to think twice about doing something crazy like running from the cops if there is nobody to soften the edges of their behavior. Plus I don't know that I'd want to be a part of getting my kid arrested, unless that kid had committed murder. The eternal "You tricked me into going to prison..." is it worth it?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 653944, member: 1550"] I know this sounds unorthodox, but I'd just let it go. You don't have to lure her back for her to get arrested. That's not your job. That's on the cops. The more she hides, the more trouble she'll be in, but I wouldn't pay for her to miss her hearing. Whatever will that do for her that will make her a better person? We all do things differently. If it were me, the money, which we did not have anyway to blow, would not be on the table. And tricking my kid into coming home just to be arrested...at her age I'd let her face the consequences of running from the cops. If you are thinking, "But she may straighten out and this will make her look bad" you are right. She is making herself look bad. However, there are programs to help felons get jobs and she is nowhere near straightening out. Of course every decision is 100% up to the parents, but I don't pesonally think we help them when we help them. They tend to do the same things over and over again with the expectation that Daddy and Mommy will fix it. They are more apt, in my opinion only, to think twice about doing something crazy like running from the cops if there is nobody to soften the edges of their behavior. Plus I don't know that I'd want to be a part of getting my kid arrested, unless that kid had committed murder. The eternal "You tricked me into going to prison..." is it worth it? [/QUOTE]
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