TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
I had posted this summer on the WC about my Dad dying from Alzheimer's, and my b-i-l dying from a brain tumor (lung cancer that metastasized) within 4 days of one another, and how my older sister, A, lost her house because her husband, B, had invested in a ranch that went down the tubes, forged her name on other items, had lost a lot of bills, was way behind on the mortgage, got pulled over and ticketed 3X in one day in the Hummer in 3 jurisdictions for wreckless driving (I'm not sure if he found the keys or if A gave in and gave them to him), plus, she lost her job ...
She and her husband always had drinking, smoking and health issues.
Now, she's alone and she's definitely still got drinking issues. I haven't said anything because I didn't think she was ready for it. I did say, "Good," when she told me she'd gotten on some medications from her dr back in May (I think it was Lexapro) but that's all.
She has called me about once every 10 days since B's death, and has always been drunk. But she is generally just looking for a shoulder, so I've just listened, and told her how glad I was that she was moved into her new townhouse (a cousin bought it for her, as an investment for himself) and she was beginning a new life. I told her she has been through a lifetime in one summer and that it is going to take time.
Turns out she's been calling my little sister, M, nearly every day. Drunk. Lonnnng, drawn out, dragged out, one-way conversations. M also found out that when A spent Thanksgiving at another sister's, K, she was so drunk, they had to put her to bed instead of letting her go home.
M is so happy, now that she no longer has to care for Dad, and that her daughter, C, about whom I have posted on this board, has successfully completed her fourth in-house treatment for meth, and has been clean for 6 mo's, the longest ever.
M, newly "free," is re-claiming her life, and understandably, guarding her time and newfound laughter and joy ... and does not want to deal with-sister A.
She has talked to A about her drinking, but has never put anything in writing.
Yesterday, she wrote her an email.
She said she was protecting her "space," especially after dealing with-Mom, who was an alcoholic and heavy smoker, and died of squamous cell carcinoma, and then Dad, and then C. She simply cannot deal with-A, no matter how much she loves her. been there done that. She said she needs to go to treatment.
We're all getting together in Calif for Christmas. Staying in the same house.
Let the fun begin!
She and her husband always had drinking, smoking and health issues.
Now, she's alone and she's definitely still got drinking issues. I haven't said anything because I didn't think she was ready for it. I did say, "Good," when she told me she'd gotten on some medications from her dr back in May (I think it was Lexapro) but that's all.
She has called me about once every 10 days since B's death, and has always been drunk. But she is generally just looking for a shoulder, so I've just listened, and told her how glad I was that she was moved into her new townhouse (a cousin bought it for her, as an investment for himself) and she was beginning a new life. I told her she has been through a lifetime in one summer and that it is going to take time.
Turns out she's been calling my little sister, M, nearly every day. Drunk. Lonnnng, drawn out, dragged out, one-way conversations. M also found out that when A spent Thanksgiving at another sister's, K, she was so drunk, they had to put her to bed instead of letting her go home.
M is so happy, now that she no longer has to care for Dad, and that her daughter, C, about whom I have posted on this board, has successfully completed her fourth in-house treatment for meth, and has been clean for 6 mo's, the longest ever.
M, newly "free," is re-claiming her life, and understandably, guarding her time and newfound laughter and joy ... and does not want to deal with-sister A.
She has talked to A about her drinking, but has never put anything in writing.
Yesterday, she wrote her an email.
She said she was protecting her "space," especially after dealing with-Mom, who was an alcoholic and heavy smoker, and died of squamous cell carcinoma, and then Dad, and then C. She simply cannot deal with-A, no matter how much she loves her. been there done that. She said she needs to go to treatment.
We're all getting together in Calif for Christmas. Staying in the same house.
Let the fun begin!
And for those who say it is ALL nature/addiction vs nurture, K and A are identical twins, so that theory gets thrown out the window. 
