klmno
Active Member
Well, yesterday I was waiting at difficult child's bus stop to pick him up and take him to appointment with PO to get his monitor put on. Was he there- NO!! So I go home, call sd to see if he got on bus or if he thought I was going to pick him up from school. They say he got on bus. I call PO and left message that we will be late (he has neverbeen late before) because I CAN"T FIND HIM. I drive around neighborhood, give up after a few mins, come back home and he is at home. Ok, I get him in car, get him to PO, approx 8 mins late, he tells her he got off at different bus stop and thought the appointment was later in the day. Ok. She puts monitor on him, he goes along with it all just fine- no complaining and like he's not worried about it. He was super energetic last night then when I wake him up this morning for school, he sounds like he is raging but he has tears rolling down the face.
I start with the consequences, rewards, punishments lecture. (Why, I don't know- it became obvious to me a long time ago that this always makes my difficult child worse). Again, that didn't work, so I come downstairs to regroup. Then, I went back upstairs and sat calmly and said we needed to discuss appropriate and acceptable solutions (he was telling me all about the kids at school who had already been giving him a hard time, and now with the monitor, things would be horrible, etc). So, finally he agrees that he will go to school if I go with him and we have a talk about all this to an administartor. (He's about 20 mins late at this point.) So, I call and finally get an administrator on phone- principal and asst. principal agree to meet after I tell them difficult child is home, wants to come to school, but has some serious concerns that he would like to discuss.
We get there and fill them in, they have some good ideas and difficult child opens up to them a little. This seemed to go well and actually might have helped them see that he really does have some emotional problems- it isn't a joke or excuse. They offer some temporary solutions which are acceptable to difficult child and me and he feels better. Then, toward the end of the meeting, difficult child brings up that a kid was trying to sell pot at school yesterday. I wasn't so sure because difficult child just said "he heard someone say something about it in the hallway". I'm thinking this could have been hearing parts of a conversation about a movie, a joke, anything. Principal says, no, it doesn't matter, we want to hear about any discussion about this in our school. So, the asst principal takes difficult child to another room, since they agreed that today he can just work outside the regular classroom. (first time they have utilized "safe place" approach for him.)
difficult child comes home today and wow, what a day- I guess he had identifed the drug seller to the asst principal through photos. They checked- the kid had a backpack FULL of pot- got arrested and policeman told difficult child that was the biggest drug busst ever at that school. Then, difficult child told them about the kid selling alcohol again and that this kid he went to on Sun (which is why he's on the montior) bought this alcohol and pot from the other kid. So, I guess they checked that out and it sounds like the kid selling alcohol got suspended and we don't know what happened to the one buying all this.
So, now I think maybe there was a little more bothering difficult child than just wearing that monitor to school. I have to wonder though, why did they spend time arresting him for the computer tear-up when they obviously have a lot bigger problems in that school. They said they would put a good word into PO for him- I hope they do. (We had a similar incidence in elementary school and that principal just called police to try to have him arrested for truancy).
Just another day, I guess....
I start with the consequences, rewards, punishments lecture. (Why, I don't know- it became obvious to me a long time ago that this always makes my difficult child worse). Again, that didn't work, so I come downstairs to regroup. Then, I went back upstairs and sat calmly and said we needed to discuss appropriate and acceptable solutions (he was telling me all about the kids at school who had already been giving him a hard time, and now with the monitor, things would be horrible, etc). So, finally he agrees that he will go to school if I go with him and we have a talk about all this to an administartor. (He's about 20 mins late at this point.) So, I call and finally get an administrator on phone- principal and asst. principal agree to meet after I tell them difficult child is home, wants to come to school, but has some serious concerns that he would like to discuss.
We get there and fill them in, they have some good ideas and difficult child opens up to them a little. This seemed to go well and actually might have helped them see that he really does have some emotional problems- it isn't a joke or excuse. They offer some temporary solutions which are acceptable to difficult child and me and he feels better. Then, toward the end of the meeting, difficult child brings up that a kid was trying to sell pot at school yesterday. I wasn't so sure because difficult child just said "he heard someone say something about it in the hallway". I'm thinking this could have been hearing parts of a conversation about a movie, a joke, anything. Principal says, no, it doesn't matter, we want to hear about any discussion about this in our school. So, the asst principal takes difficult child to another room, since they agreed that today he can just work outside the regular classroom. (first time they have utilized "safe place" approach for him.)
difficult child comes home today and wow, what a day- I guess he had identifed the drug seller to the asst principal through photos. They checked- the kid had a backpack FULL of pot- got arrested and policeman told difficult child that was the biggest drug busst ever at that school. Then, difficult child told them about the kid selling alcohol again and that this kid he went to on Sun (which is why he's on the montior) bought this alcohol and pot from the other kid. So, I guess they checked that out and it sounds like the kid selling alcohol got suspended and we don't know what happened to the one buying all this.
So, now I think maybe there was a little more bothering difficult child than just wearing that monitor to school. I have to wonder though, why did they spend time arresting him for the computer tear-up when they obviously have a lot bigger problems in that school. They said they would put a good word into PO for him- I hope they do. (We had a similar incidence in elementary school and that principal just called police to try to have him arrested for truancy).
Just another day, I guess....