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Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by lovemysons, Oct 20, 2011.

  1. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    Well...Both difficult child boys are "expecting" again. Oldest difficult child and his girlfriend and young difficult child and his wife.
    Oldest has one daughter already with 30 something yr old girlfriend who at one time thought she had "fertility issues".
    Young difficult child and his wife already have 2 children so this will be their 3rd.

    Young difficult child is living with husband and I right now. He is drinking and 2 nights ago attempted suicide. He cut himself with the sharpest knife we had our in kitchen. He ran to husband and my bedroom and asked for help...husband saw the cut and at first wanted me to call 911 as husband thought he might have cut an artery but upon further inspection decided to take young difficult child to the hospital. husband dropped him off I picked him up a few hours later at around 4am.

    Before this happend...Young difficult child's wife had been at our house with the 2 grandchildren. I was asleep but husband heard them arguing and woke me up. I went to our bedroom door and opened it only to find young difficult child blocking the front door entrance so that young difficult child's wife and the grandchildren could not leave.
    I yelled at young difficult child to move away from the front door and to let them grandson was hiding behind his mother and telling me that daddy would not let them go. It is so sad.

    Young difficult child had his 3rd court appearance yesterday...another continuance. Apparently the DA wants to talk to young difficult child 's wife before dismissing the case....acccording to young difficult child.

    Found more evidence of drinking last night.
    Not sure how much more of this I can take sometimes.

    I will probibly drive an hour down the road to the Casino and blow off some steam today.
  2. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    So sad to hear that. He needs help. Not just for himself, but for those children.... :(
    My dad was a drunk. He wasn't physically abusive, but him and my mom had some doozies. It was no way for us kids to live. We were always scared, sad. I grew up with minimal respect for my parents. I hope your son realizes he needs to get it together.
  3. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    What is wrong with this woman that she keeps producing children? She is being irresponsible.
    I'm sorry your difficult child has continued on his self damaging ways.
  4. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    I'm surprised the hospital ER didn't hold him for his "suicide" attempt. That whole harm to self thing. Of course he may have given them a different reason for the self injury.
  5. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    Agreed. Certainly not a situation to bring yet another child in to...
  6. Signorina

    Signorina Guest

    I am so sorry you are going through this {hugs}
  7. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Not so pleased about oldest but whatever, his life. But isnt youngest still on the protective order against seeing his wife and kids? Exactly how does one end up expecting if you cant see your wife? I honestly think he should be called on that one. So sorry. I just dont think the kids should have to live through it.
  8. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    What a mess! I agree with Janet and Fran. What good is going to court on protection issues if you aren't going to follow through? Making another child while the order is in place? She is a difficult child too. I am so sorry for the kids. -RM
  9. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    As always I continue to keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs. DDD
  10. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Hi, nice to meet you. Though, I wish it was at some cool party or something. Sorry you are going through all of that. I dont have those kind of issues right now but did want you to know I checked in and am thinking of you.
  11. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    PG, Yes young difficult child does need help.
    He was supposed to go to an AA meeting with husband yesterday but it didn't work out.
    Before it was pain medications and now alcohol...Alcohol killed my mother in law and my bio dad and is a true evil in our family.

    Fran and RM, I don't know what is wrong with daughter in law...she did tell me at one time that she wanted 4 children. Though neither she or young difficult child have any survival skills, drive, ambition to provide for any of these children...let alone emotional or mental stability. It will be left up to daughter in law's mother and husband and I to support these grandchildren from young difficult child and daughter in law.

    Hound, thank you for the Hugs. ((((Hugs)))) back to you. I have thought alot about you recently considering all that you've been going through.
    Young difficult child likely made up a story in ER. He did say that he cut 2 "superficial" veins and part of a tendon. He got 2 stitches which he has to go back and get removed.

    DDD...Thank you for your continued support and prayers for my family. I keep yours close to my heart too.

    Janet...Yes, oldest difficult child will have a second now. Another one that he doesn't allow us to see because of my casino habit, easy child being gay, young difficult child and daughter in law being on welfare assistance etc. Apparently his "religion" allows for him to judge and condemn others. I think it's pretty "fear based" if you asked husband and I. They think they can shelter their children from all the "evils" of the world. They also overly coddle their daughter...won't let her cry for anything etc. I have a feeling their daugher is not going to learn about the natural struggles in life that lead to understanding your own strength and overcoming obstacles. The way they are raising her could lead to her giving up fast if things get to difficult, Know what I mean?? Anyway, nothing we can do about oldest.

    Janet, Young difficult child had an order (by way of CPS) to stay away from the grandchildren not daughter in law. The "order" ended I believe around Sept 18th...Though I did come home twice to find daughter in law and the grandchildren here before they were allowed to be around young difficult child.

    Neither difficult child knows about the other's pregnancy...husband and I know cause both have told us but they want to keep it a "secret" for different reasons. daughter in law and Young difficult child did not want mother in law to find out...though my understanding is she did last week when she got on daughter in law's facebook messeges.
    Oldest difficult child and his girlfriend want to be married before they announce the pregnancy of their next one.

    Buddy...Nice to meet you too. You're funny. Yes, would be better at some "cool Party" lol. You made me smile. Hope to see you more often and thank you for taking an interest in my family.

    I did go to the Casino yesterday...was a huge waste of 200 dollars.
    Will go with husband to visit easy child this Sunday in Louisiana where she is at college. She is struggling right now with her bowling and husband wants to help her. You all may remember that it has been husband who coached her all through her teen years in bowling and is our towns High School Bowling coach for both the girls and boys teams.

    Thank you all for the care and support.
  12. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Ummm...If she knows she is pregnant already, she got pregnant before September 18th. And we all know if he was sleeping with his wife, he was around his kids. No judge is that stupid. I dont think the idea of a protective order against his children was to make another one. sigh.