I took it straight to the superintendent. Figured I'm just done screwing around with anyone else. Got to her office, she asked me to come in, and what she could do. Said she had intended to call me today, anyway, so was glad I was there. Gave her the letter and just said, I Didn't send Wee today because of the threat that was made Friday to handcuff and detain him. She said in no way would she ever allow that to happen, barring a very serious incident that involved weapons, and I said "well, I was told that was the next step". She called in the SRO and the principal of the alternative school in our district (for older kids....not Wee). She called the other principal in because he is a certified trainer in crisis prevention. After much ado, they offered to put it in writing that, if another situation arises, they will make a reference to the juvenile authorities as they are required by law to do (which is true), but they will do it as "reference only - no action required", so he will not be cuffed and stuffed (barring a major offense that involves weapons). Super also confirmed that Wee's principal is very much of the mindset that I'm the problem with Wee and that Wee can control himself, and that's a bit troubling, but I suspected that, anyway. Apparently just her presence Friday brought Wee around so she has questioned how much he can control himself. Its not unheard of, but it seems to me she's thinking "stop that right now" will work going forward. Good luck with that. Hope she's right. The issue of me "not working with the school" also came up, and I reiterated that while these people are new to our situation, we are not, and I will not sit back and allow the past to repeat itself again...ie - the suspension that principal was just so certain Wee "gets" now and was really going to be different and work this time, and blatant disregard for the IEP. I said I am not trying to be adversarial, but you have to understand, I Have dug in my heels this time because I can not continue to allow the same mistakes to be made repeatedly. The situation is manageable, you have to find people to manage it. And in her conversation with the paras, she said they really think they were handling it the right way, so she said they obviously still need additional training. Which is why they want to try the teacher. He's had training, is a certified teacher, works with kids in the public setting thru the summer, and has a very even personality. She referred to the paras as "$10 an hour employees - they are great, but they're still $10 an hour employees..." She also agreed that the FBA I requested needs to be on-going, not a one shot deal, so that may happen, too. So, I'm still on the fence...but maybe? I don't know.