I was thinking about my daughter who abused drugs and see some really strange behavior way before she started that. This is probably the strangest thing she ever did, but it tells you where she's coming from. Daughter was always very shy (still is) and at the same time has always wanted to have friends (she still does and still struggles due to shyness). When she was in maybe sixth grade she told everyone at her school that her dad worked for a candy factory and that she could get any candy they wanted. Then she would ask me for money to buy them candy. When I didn't do it, she'd go to the corner store with her friend and shoplift candy to give to her friends. She never got caught. She told me about the shoplifting way later. I didn't know about it at the time, but I knew she'd lied about what her father did and she wouldn't give me a straight answer when I asked her why she said that. She'd mumble something like, "I'm a geek." What strange things or big red flags did you see before you knew there was a bigger problem?