Mikey
Psycho Gorilla Dad
For the folks still interested, McWeedy was arrested last week at school for possession of pot and booze, as well as drug paraphernalia. The "substances" were in his car, which he was parking across the street in the mistaken belief that the school SRO's couldn't search it there (surprise - they're city police officers, and have jurisdiction anywhere in the city). Owner of the church where he was parking thought it was odd that a student would park there in the morning and walk across the street to school, so he called the PD. They called the SRO's who in turn called in the drug dogs. After the dog tried to eat his way into the car, they slimjimmed in and found his stash. They then pulled him out of class and found the pot pipe (still with resin on it) in his pocket.
So now he's facing three charges, and has been expelled from school two months before graduation on the drug paraphernalia charge.
So what is he doing? Trying to work out a diversion program (likely, if he's cooperative)? Nope. Trying to work out a plea bargain for probation and drug treatment (also likely)? Nope, not that either. He's trying to find a lawyer to sue the police department because he doesn't think they had the "legal right" to search his car.
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
This from the kid with the stickiest fingers in the world, who thumbs his nose at all family rules and most local statues, and could care less about the impact of his actions and bad decisions on others. Yet, he's comically going to try and get an iron-clad case against him thrown out because he thinks the PD didn't follow the absolute letter of the law.
"Yeah, good luck with that" I told him. "What, you don't want me to get off if I can?" "Nope", sez me. I told him "You've already been told you have to move out in January because you won't change your lifestyle. Now, when you finally have to face direct and painful consequences for your actions, you instead choose to pursue a losing fight so you can "get off" and keep going."
"I'm not surprised that you refuse to see how serious this is. I'm not even surprised that you're trying to find some way to escape. What I am surprised at is that you really think I'd support you. You're trying to escape the consequences of your actions by attacking the cops for allegedly not following the same laws <u>you routinely ignore</u>. Sorry, you don't get it both ways. If you want to try and change your life, I'll do whatever I can to help you through diversion, probation, or whatever else the court orders. But if you try this stupid, losing fight, then you're only reiterating that you have no intention to change your ways, so you can continue to look for a place to live in January (assuming the county hasn't already given you room and board for 90-180 days)".
I know that sounds flip, but in many ways I'm relieved. McWeedy had already completely neutered everything we'd tried to do for him, rebuffed every outstretched hand we offered, and ignored every rule/consequence we tried to enforce for his own good. All that we had left was to give him the opportunity to live his stoner life on his own. Now, he's tangled with something that does have the ability to force him into treatment and a different lifestyle (if only for a few years).
He can own up to his actions, and try to take advantage of what's being offered to make his life better. Or not. But either way, it won't be my problem. He's 18, and can do as he sees fit. And barring some miraculous conversion on the order of Saul becoming Paul, I have a depressing idea of how this will end for him. The sad thing he doesn't realize is that his life will be the same for the next few years whether he gets diversion or probation (with or without some jail time thrown in). The only difference is whether or not he gets a shiny new criminal record to take with him on his new life experience.
Also, when I picked up the info packet for Diversion I had to speak with the prosecutor who will handle his case, and he strikes me as a complete hard-butt who won't let McWeedy manipulate the situation. He even told me that it might do him some good to spend a few weeks in jail (not Juvie, since he's over 18) to get some "perspective" on how good (or "not so bad" ) his life really is.
I don't know if that would be good or not, but since he's 18, it's McWeedy's call, not mine. The city prosecutor can recommend against diversion if he doesn't think the accused really wants to change. Since McWeedy's greatest ambition is to smoke more pot in one year than Tommy Chong consumed in his entire career, I can only guess how that will go. We'll see. wife thinks that this is yet another "clue" from the Man Above for McWeedy. However, when you look up "clueless" in the dictionary, you'll see my son's smiling face. So I'm not very confident.
But I have more hope now than I did before. I don't know if jail, probation, diversion, or whatever the courts do to him will be "good", but I'm hoping that it's better than what I was left with: kicking him out of the house.
We'll see.
Mikey
PS: I don't mean to make anyone upset, nor am I trying to start another 60-post dialog. I'm simply putting out the latest issue of the "McWeedy Weekly Action Report" for anyone still interested in what's going on. What happens, happens, and I'll put up an update when something changes.
Mikey
So now he's facing three charges, and has been expelled from school two months before graduation on the drug paraphernalia charge.
So what is he doing? Trying to work out a diversion program (likely, if he's cooperative)? Nope. Trying to work out a plea bargain for probation and drug treatment (also likely)? Nope, not that either. He's trying to find a lawyer to sue the police department because he doesn't think they had the "legal right" to search his car.
:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:
This from the kid with the stickiest fingers in the world, who thumbs his nose at all family rules and most local statues, and could care less about the impact of his actions and bad decisions on others. Yet, he's comically going to try and get an iron-clad case against him thrown out because he thinks the PD didn't follow the absolute letter of the law.
"Yeah, good luck with that" I told him. "What, you don't want me to get off if I can?" "Nope", sez me. I told him "You've already been told you have to move out in January because you won't change your lifestyle. Now, when you finally have to face direct and painful consequences for your actions, you instead choose to pursue a losing fight so you can "get off" and keep going."
"I'm not surprised that you refuse to see how serious this is. I'm not even surprised that you're trying to find some way to escape. What I am surprised at is that you really think I'd support you. You're trying to escape the consequences of your actions by attacking the cops for allegedly not following the same laws <u>you routinely ignore</u>. Sorry, you don't get it both ways. If you want to try and change your life, I'll do whatever I can to help you through diversion, probation, or whatever else the court orders. But if you try this stupid, losing fight, then you're only reiterating that you have no intention to change your ways, so you can continue to look for a place to live in January (assuming the county hasn't already given you room and board for 90-180 days)".
I know that sounds flip, but in many ways I'm relieved. McWeedy had already completely neutered everything we'd tried to do for him, rebuffed every outstretched hand we offered, and ignored every rule/consequence we tried to enforce for his own good. All that we had left was to give him the opportunity to live his stoner life on his own. Now, he's tangled with something that does have the ability to force him into treatment and a different lifestyle (if only for a few years).
He can own up to his actions, and try to take advantage of what's being offered to make his life better. Or not. But either way, it won't be my problem. He's 18, and can do as he sees fit. And barring some miraculous conversion on the order of Saul becoming Paul, I have a depressing idea of how this will end for him. The sad thing he doesn't realize is that his life will be the same for the next few years whether he gets diversion or probation (with or without some jail time thrown in). The only difference is whether or not he gets a shiny new criminal record to take with him on his new life experience.
Also, when I picked up the info packet for Diversion I had to speak with the prosecutor who will handle his case, and he strikes me as a complete hard-butt who won't let McWeedy manipulate the situation. He even told me that it might do him some good to spend a few weeks in jail (not Juvie, since he's over 18) to get some "perspective" on how good (or "not so bad" ) his life really is.
I don't know if that would be good or not, but since he's 18, it's McWeedy's call, not mine. The city prosecutor can recommend against diversion if he doesn't think the accused really wants to change. Since McWeedy's greatest ambition is to smoke more pot in one year than Tommy Chong consumed in his entire career, I can only guess how that will go. We'll see. wife thinks that this is yet another "clue" from the Man Above for McWeedy. However, when you look up "clueless" in the dictionary, you'll see my son's smiling face. So I'm not very confident.
But I have more hope now than I did before. I don't know if jail, probation, diversion, or whatever the courts do to him will be "good", but I'm hoping that it's better than what I was left with: kicking him out of the house.
We'll see.
Mikey
PS: I don't mean to make anyone upset, nor am I trying to start another 60-post dialog. I'm simply putting out the latest issue of the "McWeedy Weekly Action Report" for anyone still interested in what's going on. What happens, happens, and I'll put up an update when something changes.
Mikey
I'm never really ready to let go of his difficult child status....
