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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 629401" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>My difficult child does the same Echo. He seems to want congratulations for doing the littlest things. And I, too, am often guarded and cold because it IS an intrusion into my safe place. I don't like the unexpected calls. They often catch me totally off guard and hit me the hardest. And like your son, my difficult child loves me. He wants to tell me things that he thinks will please me and he wants positive feedback for every single thing he does which is why I can't talk to him often. It's so very draining......</p><p></p><p> That is a feeling I feel more often than not lately. It's a horrible feeling. It's exhausting. Like just before, I was looking at his FB page. We're not friends on FB but I often look through easy child's page to see what he's up to and see that he's still alive. He had posted a "selfie" of him sitting at the train station. I don't know if you realize, but I haven't seen my difficult child in almost 9 months since he went to live in Idaho. In the picture he looks like my real son. The one that I love so much with all of my heart. He's lost a lot of weight (which he needed to) and his hair is short and he looks great. When I saw that picture I felt like I was literally punched in the gut because when I look at the picture I see the good in him and all he has to offer. I see the potential and all that "could be" if only he wanted that for himself as well. As soon as I saw that picture I had to get up and go upstairs so I could sob in private. I cried my eyes out for a good while. I know when I go to close my eyes tonight I'll see that face and those eyes and my dear son sitting against a chain link fence at his new "home" - the train station. This whole thing is enough to kill a person....</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I wanted to let you know, I'm right here with you. I know you know what you have to do just like I know what I have to do. We need to stay strong and let our difficult child's figure it out for themselves. It sure as h*ll isn't easy but it's the only option at this point......</p><p></p><p>Big hugs to you Echo!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 629401, member: 12470"] My difficult child does the same Echo. He seems to want congratulations for doing the littlest things. And I, too, am often guarded and cold because it IS an intrusion into my safe place. I don't like the unexpected calls. They often catch me totally off guard and hit me the hardest. And like your son, my difficult child loves me. He wants to tell me things that he thinks will please me and he wants positive feedback for every single thing he does which is why I can't talk to him often. It's so very draining...... That is a feeling I feel more often than not lately. It's a horrible feeling. It's exhausting. Like just before, I was looking at his FB page. We're not friends on FB but I often look through easy child's page to see what he's up to and see that he's still alive. He had posted a "selfie" of him sitting at the train station. I don't know if you realize, but I haven't seen my difficult child in almost 9 months since he went to live in Idaho. In the picture he looks like my real son. The one that I love so much with all of my heart. He's lost a lot of weight (which he needed to) and his hair is short and he looks great. When I saw that picture I felt like I was literally punched in the gut because when I look at the picture I see the good in him and all he has to offer. I see the potential and all that "could be" if only he wanted that for himself as well. As soon as I saw that picture I had to get up and go upstairs so I could sob in private. I cried my eyes out for a good while. I know when I go to close my eyes tonight I'll see that face and those eyes and my dear son sitting against a chain link fence at his new "home" - the train station. This whole thing is enough to kill a person.... Anyway, I wanted to let you know, I'm right here with you. I know you know what you have to do just like I know what I have to do. We need to stay strong and let our difficult child's figure it out for themselves. It sure as h*ll isn't easy but it's the only option at this point...... Big hugs to you Echo! [/QUOTE]
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