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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 58920" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi,</p><p>I wish I had done less with difficult child 1 when she was younger and at home (she is 19 now). I put all of my energy, thoughts, everything into trying to help her. If I could do it over I would take a great deal of that and give it to my other 2 "normal" kids. My younger dtr, especially, has suffered greatly from having a difficult child older sister and she was too "good" up til she was a teenager herself. She stuffed all her emotions and played her role as the good kid very well til her sister went away to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Then, when I thought we were going to have a calm, healing time while her sister was away, all heck broke loose and we found out just how miserable she actually was. </p><p></p><p>My son who is now 23 says he felt all alone while he was a teen, that there was no one to turn to because he could see that his sister required so much attention that he too had to be a "good" kid--felt he was not allowed to have any problems.</p><p></p><p>So, from my perspective now, I would say be very careful about devoting your whole life to your difficult child at the expense of the rest of your family. The younger kids may seem to be doing great but they may be having their own turmoil that you don't know about because they know they have to be good.</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 58920, member: 3450"] Hi, I wish I had done less with difficult child 1 when she was younger and at home (she is 19 now). I put all of my energy, thoughts, everything into trying to help her. If I could do it over I would take a great deal of that and give it to my other 2 "normal" kids. My younger dtr, especially, has suffered greatly from having a difficult child older sister and she was too "good" up til she was a teenager herself. She stuffed all her emotions and played her role as the good kid very well til her sister went away to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Then, when I thought we were going to have a calm, healing time while her sister was away, all heck broke loose and we found out just how miserable she actually was. My son who is now 23 says he felt all alone while he was a teen, that there was no one to turn to because he could see that his sister required so much attention that he too had to be a "good" kid--felt he was not allowed to have any problems. So, from my perspective now, I would say be very careful about devoting your whole life to your difficult child at the expense of the rest of your family. The younger kids may seem to be doing great but they may be having their own turmoil that you don't know about because they know they have to be good. Jane [/QUOTE]
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