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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 759375" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear lovemysons</p><p></p><p>I think that change has to happen when they still want drugs, but when they want something else even more. I don't think there is ever a point when somebody who is addicted stops wanting the thing that they crave. It is a question of deciding each and every time, in a different way, because something else is more important. The want of something different has to come from within our children's hearts. That's why it hasn't worked for me, all of the conditions and incentives and motivations and supports I have applied. At the end of the day, my son only experienced these as manipulations. And he was right.</p><p></p><p>My son has problems with ID's and operates without them. If he pays cash for train tickets online or on the phone, or if I do, he rides Amtrak without a problem. He boards the train with a ticket on his phone and thus far he hasn't had a problem. It's when they buy the ticket at the station that he has to show an ID.</p><p></p><p>I wish I could hold onto my love as you do. I devolve into hardness or frustration or anger. My son is in my town again. It was so much easier when he was two hours to the north. When he's closer I get hard in order to protect myself. I don't know another way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 759375, member: 18958"] Dear lovemysons I think that change has to happen when they still want drugs, but when they want something else even more. I don't think there is ever a point when somebody who is addicted stops wanting the thing that they crave. It is a question of deciding each and every time, in a different way, because something else is more important. The want of something different has to come from within our children's hearts. That's why it hasn't worked for me, all of the conditions and incentives and motivations and supports I have applied. At the end of the day, my son only experienced these as manipulations. And he was right. My son has problems with ID's and operates without them. If he pays cash for train tickets online or on the phone, or if I do, he rides Amtrak without a problem. He boards the train with a ticket on his phone and thus far he hasn't had a problem. It's when they buy the ticket at the station that he has to show an ID. I wish I could hold onto my love as you do. I devolve into hardness or frustration or anger. My son is in my town again. It was so much easier when he was two hours to the north. When he's closer I get hard in order to protect myself. I don't know another way. [/QUOTE]
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